don't ignore women in chat because you want to mancave with your buddies, it's rude.
This has happened to me a lot tbh. I feel like I'm walking into a man cave and so I walk straight out again. There can be some very disrespectful talk about woman in there and I'm too scared to come in and say 'hey, that's not okay' because I'll be dismissed as a hippie, a leftie, being too 'PC' or whatever else they might want to come up with. Or I'm just plain ignored, because they want to talk about cars, woman, and whatever else, so .... maybe they do need a #mancave channel, but with some men in it that'll call it out when they are being sexist, misogynistic, disrespectful assholes.
Social media can be a brutal reflection of society at large and as an international and innovative platform we have a special responsibility to be kind, compassionate and universal..Kindness indeed doesn't cost a thing but it can be priceless when someone needs it most.
Thanks @skramatters for perfectly summing it up here. I like to think we keep that stuff out of @naturalmedicine, and the one time I did have a sarcastic, patronising voice in there I messaged him and politely asked him to stop, with love and respect. He did NOT take it kindly and lost his shit, pulled his delegation and disappeared as he thought I was picking on him - even though I said 'I know you may not have meant it that way, but please know your comments could be seen as quite demeaning and cruel, and you have upset the person you were talking to'. It made me feel sad.
I also know what it's like to be called a dude or a brother here, and when I correct them, they disappear and don't support me anymore. I also know what it's like to be less well regarded because I am not a male whilst watch male leaders in similar positions to me being pandered to. And there's nothing I can do about it and nor do I want to as I don't want to be trolled or hated or attacked. You are an amazing person for speaking out against injustice, inequality and the damn asshole-ness of society - a society that is mirrored on Steem despite our efforts to create an amazing place where people are 'free' - when we're not. The same laws apply - the ones that divide and isolate us, bully and patronise us.
Thankyou to the men who are NOT like that here. And I do say MEN, as I have yet to see the same behaviour of a woman. Point me in that direction and I'll stand corrected, happily. Fucking ego power plays and limited, childish minds who can't understand we are all in this together.
Just be you, @torico. That's all we can do - continue to model behaviour we wish to see in the world. Then you can rest easy knowing you have done your best.
But yes please, can Discord be a safe place for woman, and a respectful one? It's hard enough in real life.
Speaking as an anarcho-capitalist who is almost virulently freedom-oriented, I think attempts to enforce political correctness are a good thing. That might come as a surprise, since an-caps are seen to lie maybe more on the conservative end of the spectrum, but when we express discontent about someone else's speech (which is not censorship; only governments can define "illegal" speech) we're engaging in what free-market economists call "market forces." That's how society self-regulates, as opposed to looking to centralized governments to regulate our behavior for us. We regulate each other, and that's how societies and markets work when left alone. Anarchists aren't opposed to following rules; we'd just rather the rules were derived laterally by the people involved rather than by government. And if people respond to your attempts to civilize the conversation by saying you're "too PC," remind them (or inform them) of this! When enough people express the need for civil discourse, our complex adaptive society will continually respond democratically to this self-regulation -- not all at once, across the board, but person by person, chat room by chat room. 😃