Hear hear! As a guy that often plays the role of antagonist and is quite blunt I do hope my intent to help us all grow together isn't overshadowed by my dirty words and derogatory comments..
I try to pick on my targets equally and inspire them to do some self reflection.. I absolutely don't intend to belittle people due to circumstances completely out of their control but I'm sure I've crossed lines as I admittedly stray from the safe, PC, socially conformed patterns purposefully.
BTW, were you choosing to be ironic when you used the word douche to describe someone that is being hurtful or annoying? 🕵😜 You also said you have a "pitiful" need to be liked and I'm sure you're well aware we all share this need as social beings and it's of course in no way pathetic or pitiful..
Anyway, I get your message and I respect that you and others have boundaries, I myself also have feelings and can be quite sensitive. I too would prefer that people like me, especially people I like and respect.. I never really bullied anyone but the bullies as a kid and I think I'm still the same, though I've probably extended my scope to include anyone I see as I having ulterior motives or being fake not as a defense mechanism but to curry favour and/or cheat people for personal gains..
Social media can be a brutal reflection of society at large and as an international and innovative platform we have a special responsibility to be kind, compassionate and universal..
Kindness indeed doesn't cost a thing but it can be priceless when someone needs it most.. Hugs and 🍪 cookies to you... I've stayed out of discord lately as it was getting too dramatic for my taste.. And I've got all these Rcs.. 😂
Most guys are like you and Im ok with that. one of my fears is that people would read this and think im being preachy or fussy over nothing. So I threw all the pussy videos in to make a point. The douche word was totally ironic. I loaded that post with all the bad mouthed bitch I could, to illustrate how casually we accept words that are also used to harm.
I think everyone has boundaries, and Im sure I cross them with others, but this habit some guys have of holding in their feelings and pretending they dont care wht other people say hinders the whole process of open communication. totally agree with you that we have a special responsibility in realizing that how we act is reflected back at us.
thanks for the cookies! hugs .
Cool! I didn't get the preachy, fussy, soap box vibes. For me it was an authentic appeal or desire for people to be more conscientious of the language they use. This is even more important online when we have no body language or tone of voice to help us figure out what's actually behind the words.
Do unto others should not be such a difficult concept but it definitely is and maybe that's because on some level sadly, being hurtful feels more familiar or genuine to many people that have been ridiculed and abused more often than treated with respect and dignity.
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