I'm not afraid to say that each of us knows people who are "whining" because of some problems in their lives:
Unloved work.
Relationships (marriage) that do not bring happiness.
Don't like living in this house/apartment or city/country.
His or her figure/weight.
And many other reasons... but! Of course, do nothing to change it...
A well-known Chinese proverb says: when the wind of change blows, some build walls, others - windmills.
And, it would seem, what could be easier - know who you are! Then surely you will be able to accept the changes and be ready for them... but, firstly - to know yourself is not such a simple task, and secondly - psychology gives us a few more "points" for reflection.
Any changes, both positive and negative, are:
Fear that it will be worse than now.
Absolute uncertainty.
Something to which many are not ready.
And people have to day after day torment this dilemma - to try to change something in their lives or not!
Here we come to another "step" that needs to be overcome in the way of changes in one's life. It's impossible to change your life without changing yourself! How it says - wherever a person tries to escape from their problems, he takes himself with him!
Therefore, we must start with yourself. In general, the analysis of yourself actions is a great thing! Want to change something - analyze what you can change in yourself! What are your actions leading to a negative result in this matter? After all, the road begins with the first step. So is your goal. Rarely when we can get what we want right away... we need to do something, work hard, eliminate the causes of failure coming from ourselves!
For myself, I have already determined what changes mean - it's a way out of the comfort zone. No more, no less... And since for me the exit from the comfort zone is not a problem, I easily perceive changes, even negative ones. Just another "adventure" from the Lady Life.
Don't be a person "Starting a new life on Monday"
The main motivation in life - time is running out! I'm not saying that you cannot change yourself and your life in 70/80/90 years. You can! But it will be much more difficult! After all, the "swamp" of everyday problems and habits of living "like that" will not let you go so easily... I've read quite a few books on psychology, but I like a simple and uncomplicated phrase...
Just Do It!
Changes can:
Improve your life!
Expand your horizons!
Unleash your potential!
Don't be afraid of change, my friends! The world is huge and there is a lot of unexplored and surprising in it!
Sincerely, Terry Craft.
It is more like a mental blocking to initiate change. Being use to routine also makes people avoid to change. Our support system needs to be strong therefore if someone's in our life said they want to change for betterment, we should support them. Just my 2 cents
change is not always good. most of people mind doesn't love the change as auto-protection from the problems that a not well managed change causes.
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I once heard someone talk about this topic through the lens of an old bible story. When Moses and Pharoh were in Egypt and the plague of frogs had covered the land, Pharoh was pleading with Moses to pray that the frogs would leave. Moses asked Pharoh, "When would you like me to pray" Pharoh said. "Tomorrow"
I think we lose most of our lives waiting for tomorrow, because today is the only chance we really have to step into change
It's the fear of uncertainty.
But always bear in mind: the only constant is change.
Thanks for posting!
Very goot tips Terry, I agree with you. It is time for us to change with time and always accept the new reality of life in relationship or even financial life. This strategy will certainly make us a more successful people.
The unknown is scary, fear of loss. You never know what is going to happen. Usually it's great, but one doesn't know until they try!
Sometimes I embrace changes, but sometimes I don't. It all depends on what the situation is, I embrace the changes that I wanted to but I couldn't accept the unexpected changes.
In time, I learn to accept the expected and unexpected changes in life. And that's the most important thing to learn in life because if you could accept any kind of changes, you can be fluid to fit anywhere and things won't blow you down easily.
I think it has more to do with mind set and low self-esteem than being afraid. When a person's desire gets weak or broken, it's hard for that individual to make proper decisions to bring about change.
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@terrycraft - You have explained a very profound truth in very simple language . By personal experience, I know that whining does not help and change has to be made in self, after some introspection, to change our lives. You are absolutely correct in pointing out that change is usually way out of our comfort zone and therefore, perhaps not easy to implement. This should not stop us from accepting change because, ultimately, it will change our lives. Thanks for this thought provoking blog. Upvoted and followed you.
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Good story , as for me change is beyond our control. we have to accept and adept.
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I don't actually care what people say about me actually its my life i am gonna make it anyways I know it
Yes, it's very important too! Because many people don't like when you leave trouble's life (crabs mentality), they don't love when someone's life is better than their own.
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Right on!!! I'm an example of change but I have not all the merits... I can't stand to be in a situation I don't like hahaha
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great great my friend i felt good after reading that!!! take those risks jump and be you great stuff
really interating post..for me, we should not afraid for changes, we won't know something better in future without any changes..sometime we must change and move..!! thanks for sharing..really inspired
the only thing constant in life
is change.
not all chang good, some changes are not gurranty for a good future..
Lovely Post my friend ,, we become what we think about
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You have chosen a informative change. Along with time we have to move ahead no matter where life takes us. There will be ups and down in everyones life, but we have to tackle with that. i loved your post infinity. I follow u and do follow me @bindu
I don't actually care what people say about me actually its my life i am gonna make it anyways I know it
@terrycraft, whining and complaining definitely doesn't help... change happens, no matter whether we welcome it, or have to be dragged kicking and screaming towards it.
When I look at my own life, I tend to have been somewhat resistant, and I have to ask myself "why?" And usually it's not the fears... but the fact that I have usually spent a lot of time figuring out precisely how I like things to be... and then put effort into creating that particular reality. So there is the feeling of "I worked so hard to make it as I wanted... and now it is being taken away from me!" Of course, that is really a falsehood... there is no "it" forcing the change on me... change is inevitable.
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If we are afraid of changes then we'll never progress. Great post.
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the one reason why change is constant is that it can not be predicted, tamed or avoided. Thanks for sharing this post
it's not easy to step out the comfort zones.
I can handle change and being uprooted I can survive. But I like stability and do not like like changes to that.
The unknown can be scary sometimes. I think its better to take that risk and that chance rather than wondering "what if"
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Change needs the mindset of welcoming new experiences into your focus. A first time momma experiences change of her body, mindset, and the understanding that the changes is welcoming all the firsts that will be part of her life from day 1, does it stop her? No, she learns to welcome and adapt and look forward to them and witnessing all the firsts in their lives, not like babies come with a laid out set in book formula for teaching a little human to develop into a fully functioning human, this is how humans learn by gaining the events that change their lives, if we fear change we stagnate our growth as humans. Great topic, resteemit for others!
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Great post, everyone knows they need to change if they are unhappy about life but the I think that most people are unaware of what needs to be changed. Love this bit, 'whenever a person tries to escape from their problems, they take themselves with them'. So true, problems are in people's heads and you can't run away from them.
The first step is so hard, there are a few things I want to change to make my health better, quit smoking, diet etc, I need to do it finally and thank you for this steem it puts me in the right track🌷
When the pain of resting the same becomes greater than the pain of change, only then will the man unwilling to change truly start to change.
we always feel bad mood when face difficult, that one reason why we afraid to change
The most difficult part is taking the first step... We have a lot of "what ifs" and it can drive a person nuts! However, I agree with you. Embracing change can do wonders, be it on the negative or positive side! Let's do whatever we want and try not to regret... Have a nice day and thanks for sharing this post. :)
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The only way to avoid stagnation is change.
People are afraid of change because of the uncertainty it brings. We should learn to embrace uncertainty and our lives become an adventure.