6 years ago my best friend of many years raped me in my sleep.
He then gaslighted me and told me it was in my head. We were both drunk and when I woke up to him raping me I went outside and started sobbing and freaking out and wanted to call the police but he kept telling me it didn't happen, I was drunk, I was dreaming, and they wouldn't believe me and I was a victim of repeated abuse and molestation and he knew this; at the time I wasn't strong enough to stand up for myself or even believe in myself.
but now I am and I know he raped me I literally woke up as it was happening. I am no longer going to be silent. I know he is now married and I am disgusted by the fact that the woman has no idea what a monster he is. I am tempted to write her but I know I will be discredited as a crazy ex-girlfriend because we briefly dated. But I did at least want him to know that I fucking know what he did and shatter any illusion he's created in his head of being a good guy so I sent him a message:
"I know you're all married now and everything but what happened that night is not okay. I know what happened and gaslighting me worked but I know and I hope you know.
If you have a baby daughter I hope you think of what you did to me and realize you are the person to fear."
Steemit has given me a voice.
I have said it before and will say it again, steemit has changed my life. I am standing up and confronting all the people that wronged me. Toxic family, fuckers from my past that harmed me, all of them. I am so glad to be standing so strong.
My being silent made him convince himself it really didn't happen and I will god-damn remind him it did.
Hey Brad, you didn't break me but I know you're a monster.
Did you date him before or after he raped you? Are you certain that, in your drunken state, your autonomous nervous system and sexual response wasn't triggered? Are you certain that he is the monster you say he is, or is it possible that in your inebriated state you were sexually responsive, and he didn't realize that you weren't conscious? I'm not trying to attack you, but you seem vulnerable and easily influenced, and perhaps you're just sharing your story to feel important and draw in sympathy? There's many things about your story that don't feel real at all, actually. So you dated him, yes? Again, before or after the night you woke up having sex?
many years after, he had a girlfriend. And yes, I am sure I was raped. I never saw him again after he raped me. No, I am not trying to draw in sympathy I am trying to have a voice and show other victims they have a voice.
You and he dated years after the night that you say he raped you? I don't think you're going to empower yourself by showing everyone such disregard for your own well-being, acting like a victim, and blaming some unknown man (that you later dated) for something that can't be proven, and is suspiciously vague.
I'm highly attuned to liars, and it appears to me that you've recently read some article about malignant narcissists, you related parts of that article to your own experiences (real or imagined), and you have some supportive feminist friends who have been able to get you to drink the Kool-aid and create reasons for why you act out and have social anxiety disorder. I think you're a wound up ball of borderline personality disorder with a history of garnering sympathy (and now money!) from others by acting like you're a victim. Well, more power to you - enjoy the steem or whatever. I don't believe you, try harder. Cheers.
They may not feel real to you but they were very much real to me as I am the one who experienced them.
I had many women on my facebook actually comment, coming out about how it happened to them too and they had been quiet about it. Probably because of how often the victim is not believed. I did this article for them and am glad it reached them even if it made others skeptical. :)
So sorry this happened to you. As a father of an 8 yr. old girl (who is my world by the way), it makes me so angry when I hear stories like this. It makes me want to FUCK up this guy for you and every other woman he may have hurt!
Thank you for being a guy who doesn't interrogate and blame women who come out and tell their story. Your daughter is lucky to have a father like you. Thank you for being an ally to women. :)
Kudos for standing up! What a little bitch he is
He wrote back pretending to not know what I talking about. (of course) I reminded him in detail and then blocked him.