Yes today am going to be talking about relation and love and all the things in between. Some people have been in a relation and before you know it, it comes to an end. You are sad, broken and emotionally drained. ‘”What am I to do?” you ask yourself. Am I not good enough, what does s/he need that I do not have, what didn’t I do, what could have been the problem? These questions never stop to cross your mind.
It is a very usual thing for anyone who has just broken out of a relationship to be emotionally derailed, sad and unhappy. Love is a beautiful and everyone would kill to have it, but only few could understand what love is and how to manage it in a relation.
But hey! Am here to tell you that you should get up and dust yourself up- HOLD ON! I know that maybe you feel that your time is going, you feel like you would never get someone else, but it’s a lie because when that right wo/man comes your way you will surely know.
Know this today, that if someone could take your wo/man then am sorry, s/he is no not your own. This is why you must forgive the situation immediately, mend your heart and get ready for the right person. Some people cannot handle break-ups, it’s either they are on a mission to revenge, feel hostile over the other person, feeds on old events and becomes very vulnerable confused and lose hold of the right judgement of situations.
This particular set of people are prone to serious emotional stress which to me they gave way for. See, whatever is yours cannot be taken at all so why bother and kill yourself over something that is not worth it, HOLD ON when the time comes you will know.
Do not be surprised that romance is not true love, for sure it is one of the tool to make a relationship interesting and wonderful, but it does not mean it is true love. True love is about understanding, true love is trust, and it is filled with wisdom. It does not act irrationally, it does not make hasty decisions. It is patient, kind and full of compassion.
Do not think that only love can stand in a relationship; if it does not have companions like trust, understanding and maturity it would become a problem one day. Hence love alone is not enough. Trust strengthens a relationship, it is everything to a relationship. People who have stayed over years in marriage will you tell that.
Never believe that because the previous relationship did not work out, or that because your partner did not find you good enough to be with that you can never be good for someone else. Keep your mind open. “Keep your mind open”, a very wonderful sisterly (women helping women) said; but do not rush into anything because when the time comes love will find you.
So let’s talk a little about how to get over a break up.
You’d have to understand that break up is not the end of the world, it is also not a death sentence. Break up is a situation that tells you that your time with someone who is not for you is up. Hence, never see break up as bad cause it is not.
There are so many lessons that you would learn through break ups that will lead you becoming a wholly different person positively, that is if you decide that it is positive you want. Am sorry to say that am disappointed with the way some people see breakup as a way to become something that they are not. You should learn to take anything that comes into your life and transform it into good no matter how bad.
Tips that you need to stay good after your break up
Accept what you see and embrace yourself
It is always difficult for some people to do, but hey if you don’t know one will do that for you. You have to do yourself some good good favour and take what is and forget what you cannot change about the situation. No matter the party that has initiated the break up and for whatever reason either good or otherwise, the best thing is to take it and embrace yourself. Do not be too hard on yourself either.
Time to fix yourself up
It has happened and there is nothing you can do about it, but you can do something to fixing yourself. It’s the best time to see and correct some negative attitudes and habits that could be a problem to your general life. This is the time to renew your strength and see what you can make out of your life positively.
You cannot be buried in self-pity and expect yourself to be fixed, it cannot just happen you need to enforce and make it happen. Like I always say that there is nothing you cannot do except you are six feet below.
Be the goal digger
Now you have to face your dreams, goals passion. Before you met this person you had dreams and goals, so breaking up does not mean that these dreams and goals have to die. It’s time to do this, chase after your dream, goals and passion.
Be happy because the best is yet to come
Let me tell you the most horrible thing that can happen to anyone; it is thinking you are in the right relationship meanwhile it is not the place for you; Forcing yourself to make things work or better when you know that there is no head way and lastly, refusing to know that maybe there is no future for the two of you together.
So many people enter into wrong relationships and they become blind to see the truth and along the way get hurt when the truth starts to unfold. But then you have to be happy that fortunately you are not going to be married eventually to the wrong person.
Never dwell in the past, sad and thinking that your best has gone with someone else, whatever is yours will surely be yours but if it’s not working take a bow and head out and be happy you did.
When your own true love comes you will know, feeling thankful and happy. Never rush this process because it is going to be one step at a time.
We will be stopping here with breakups and how to get yourself back until I come your way again. I remain that sisterly that is after your emotional, psychological, physical and spiritually well being. I am a woman who believes in not only helping other women but in humanity and the good of it. I am @gloglo!
Words:
Wo/man: Referring to either a woman or a man.
Sisterly: A lady/woman considered to be after the well being of other women (women helping women).
PS: That was my connotation for sisterly in this context.
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Hello @gloglo
You have really done justice on the subject of dealing with break up.
Lots of folks give their all (both emotional, soulfully and cash — practically everything they could lay Hands on) to relationship. And when everything turns unworkable, they resort to the point of taking their own life. And that's the issue!
I certainly hope such persons reeling in pains of break up will find this line of yours very helpful.
@eurogee
Yes that's another one... suicide. I vonaider that as being shallow and unreasonable. No one would be together for ever here on earth which ever way. So why act irrational.
Beat is to expect changes, it might come from us or others but it is giod we know that there is something called change and it strike any time.
There are better things and options even if one fails. People just have to see it that way to maintain sanity.
Thank you very much @eurogee for pointing that out.
My pleasure dear✌️
Great writeup, full of wisdom and subtle advice. I wonder if we all need to be married. There are a lot of people that live as boyfriend and girlfriend and remains happy like forever.
Hmm, well I think marriage is a personal thing, For those who want to take their relationship to the next level. Staying boyfriend and girlfriend forever? Wow! 😁
Wow! truly o!
Yes. This is very true, like you said our best isn't gone because our spouses has been snatched from us.
Its said we should be able to let go off things,if it comes back to us then we know it ours forever. I wish we'd indulge this too in this context.
Thank you @gloglo for this post. Its really nice.
Thank yiu for that wonderful contribution my friend.
I agree too. Letting go helps our heart to heal.
Great write-up and good advice/tip to those who are getting up from break up. It isn't easy
It's not at all. That is why staying down is never the best choice.
Exactly. It's might be hurtful at first, but time heals every wound
I see myself in the first part of your post... luckily for me its way behind me now.
I think one of the ways to get over break up it is to be selfish. Just like you have said be a goal digger and be happy. Selfish in the sense that you have to care about yourself to fix yourself. Be selfish with your time, your resources, your happiness. Think of how to grow and find ways to make yourself better. You wouldn't even know when the pain would leave because you will be so busy doing something else.
That's true. I agree my namesake @annieben
I could not agree less with you dear @annieben. Getting positive stuffs going on helps distract one from emotional melancholy. I appreciate you stopping by.
#hugs
Wonderful content, you know i believe that not everything that actually left you, isnt ment for you. Our actions at times pushs what is ment for us away...
Thanks sisterly for sharing
Being with the right person is enough to make us not behave badly. But some prople are just naturally difficult to be with.
Thanks for that sisterly.
I hate breakups because for a while your self esteem gets injured And there's so much hurt and pain and love and hate at the same time....
Break up is not the end, it only shows there's better to come....
Getting over a break up for me is all about making me happy with as many alternatives as possible
At the same time one has to be careful and not rush into entering another one. It is always better to recollect. Thank you dear for the contribution.
#smiles
Wow..!
You just spoke like someone who just got over a break up... Lols😂
OK...
Break up seems to be very hard for many people and me also, although I motivate myself alot but once it strikes, it seems like ave loosed all.
You should have also added getting yourself an ice-cream after break up
Believe me ave tried it...😂😂
Oh you tried it? Very good recommendation. Thank you @camzy😁
@gloglo I heard from a friend something weird saying the feeling of love is actually from a neuron in the brain, and this neuron can also be aided by taking chocolate.
Hahaha... maybe this is something I will make research on. Am not sure but Your friend might be right 😁
Lol... See the way you made getting over break up Sound so easy in writing... Well, I've not been in one before and I pray I'm not in such shoes but until then I'll have to memorize this tips, in case of insanity.. Lol..
Hahaha... you never can tell.
Love burns like fire. I have learnt that without trust a relationship cannot stand. Yes, true love is understanding. I am motivated:)
Trust happens to be the spinal cord of a good relationship. When it's absent, problem will come creeping in.
@gloglo thank you soo much for sharing this, it's really helpful.
Am glad it was.
Wow @gloglo sis,thanks for sharing this inspiring post.
The pleasure is all mine dear one. Thank you.
Yes many people enter into wrong relationships and they become blind to see the truth and along the way get hurt when the truth starts to unfold,great post @gloglo
That's correct. If only we can see things before they happen but we are mere human. It's only left that we learn from things like this. Thank you dear.
There are some things that we can't change, and the more we think about it the more it will hurt us, this is the perfect example of that. I have been told that true love, only comes when you really love yourself, because if you don't love yourself, how can you love another person? I personally think this is true. Love is about what you can offer, and what your beloved one can offer you, if you have to force it, it's not true love.
I hope you are great gloglo :)
I totally agree with you my friend. Thank you for that wonderful contribution. Am very well too. Stay awesome.
Excellent advice is a great contribution for many in the community I like to read post so good thanks greetings
Thank you very much.
good job dear @gloglo
its excellent story
very well post and great job dear
Breakups are not the end of the world and like you said, if they were truly yours then they wouldn't have gone away.
.when you are faced with break up, go lock yourself up in a room and cry as much as you can. Cry the whole day if you can, just satisfy yourself. But don't exceed that day. Think of greater things you can still do with your life. That wo/man who break up with you don't know what they are doing.
Remind yourself how special you are and pick up your remaining pieces and live a wonderful life.
Thanks for sharing this ma'am...
dear @gloglo
this is really amazing post of love story,
The moments of break ups is not the time to be moody and thinking about what you've lost because often times it is not certain that you guys would come back together.
The best is to think about the wayforward in your relationship life by doing a review of the previous one, your flaws and imperfections as well as that of your ex. By doing this you'd make sure you don't commit the same mistakes that you did in the previous relationship and improve the future one.
Thanks for sharing.
Wow thanks alot. I went through a similar situation but i never allowed it weigh me down or bring my self esteem to zero.Instead i took myself up after a few days of horror and today am happier than i ever was trust is key to staying in a relationship trust binds love. @gloglo am happy you are sharing this knowledge because alot of people have done so much harm to themselves just because they can let go. Most of them feel they are not at fault and ask the question why? Just forget about questions and tell yourself how special you are,say No to such pain. @gloglo i must say you don't know the number of people you have healed from powerful articles like this i appreciate your work.
Just want i needed to read, currently going through a phase that might lend to a break up. Thanks once again for your wisdom on this issue.
Relationship life cycle
Boy meets girl
Boy likes girl and dates
Feelings reduces. .. and the cycle continues
But, really break up is inevitable. And we are developed by how many times we get back up after being knocked down.
Useful tips there, @gloglo