I can recall my sons first day in "big school" 3 years ago and as we walked through the front gates, he was greeted by the security upon entering - which he ignored - but only that once... because he got an immediate "klip" on the back of his head and was made to turn around and greet the man properly. Never again have we had such an issue, in fact they are the best of buddies now, and will each exchange their daily "happenings" as we drive out the exit gates in the afternoon.
I was brought up with MANNERS
It is as simple as that really...
(I actually tried to find a GIF to depict this, but it is apparent that our society is so bloody Fncked that there isnt a GIF alive that can depict decent manners....)
So I have used this "vintage pic" instead lol
Ironically, it happens to have been taken from an article titled "Invisible art of etiquette: Having good manners delivers all sorts of unexpected gains"
(Had a REAL good chuckle at that!)
MY POINT?
Where the bloody hell are people's manners!
give a toss about one another, but are willing to go the extra mile. We are a real little family now, and I am prouder to say that right now, MORE than ever!!!!About 6+ months ago, I launched our @steemitbloggers server on discord. My intention behind starting this server was to create a community of authentic and quality individuals, that not only
I decided to do a little experiment earlier tonight....
I am a member of SEVERAL discord servers...
16 to be precise ;)
(including mine)
Not that many... but enough to make this point!
I have been a member of all of them for quite some time...
so am no new arrival...
and tonight I went through each and every one
in one foul swoop...
and said the same generic
"Hi Everyone"
in each general room...
just "Hi Everyone"...No, I did not say @everyone....
As I sit here now,
approx. 6 hours later,
I have only received return greetings
from my own @steemitbloggers community!!
Yes, one of the first things that I EVER said
to the people that joined our community,
was that good manners are compulsory,
and I am SUPER PROUD that we passed the test,
but as for the rest of the discord servers....
WHAT THE ACTUAL FNCK PEOPLE?! LOL!
When there are in excess of 100+ online....
surely at least one of you
has been taught the courtesy of saying "hello" in return?! -
No, apparently not! haha! (too sad but true!)
For any NEW person joining these communities,
how... on God's GREEN EARTH
is this supposed to make them feel welcomed,
let alone supported?!
Shocking really!
But hey,
FLYING COLOURS
The @steemitbloggers passed the etiquette test with
So hats off to all you AMAZING PEEPS
Until next time...
Much Love from Cape Town, South Africa xxx
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@jaynie you know how we roll!!!! lol I must also say that the family you "created" is by far the most engaging, helpful discord group I've ever been a part of. Everyone goes out of their way to help, chat, and all follow the rules(a big part of manners in my opinion).
Thanks for all you have done to make it possible and for creating a warm, friendly space for quality content creators!
That's so true!!! I didn't see Jaynie's message though. I am sure you guys had a ball.
Glad you agree @ronyxoxo :) Input from our members always means a lot to me! :)
: )
oh wow @papacrusher - you know, reading stuff like that is music to my ears... but you are right... it is true. We have a fantastic group of people and everyone is completely GENUINE to their core, which is what makes it so awesome.
Thank you SO much for the lovely feedback!!!
You know I adore you, but I do not really do 'chatrooms.' I suck at it, I find small talk to be insanely stressful and am completely dysfunctional at it. If you posted (and I saw it, which is rare in and of itself) with "Hi everyone, I'm having a hard time" I would be all over that, hoping to give you a person to vent to/talk to or try to support you.
Whenever I see the "hi everyone" type thing, I don't really know what to say. I don't like the "hi" beginnings of conversation... I suppose my intense social awkwardness is showing through here. I just don't know what to say, so I just don't say anything. Of course, that being said, I find the whole "Hi everyone" or even "Hi @everyone" to mean that they're looking for someone to chat with and since I abhor "chatting" I don't participate. I'm so much the total introvert.
If you messaged me personally and said anything beyond "hi" I'd chat with you if I could/had the time to be there. Absolutely. Even if you were just feeling bored/lonely/in need/wanting to share a GREAT day kind of thing.
I am definitely lacking in manners, though. I hate socializing in groups, even online. It just makes me feel like a fake and stresses me right out.
I do tend to try to say "Hello" and something beyond that to random people, Walmart greeters, etc. though in person. I try to give people compliments when I can, but I'm just not the "Hi!" "Hello!" type person I guess.
I suppose a lot of people find me rude, but I do engage with people, just in a different way. I try to always find something genuine to say when I read someone's post, because I feel like that is more of a 'conversation' and that the person I'm writing to can read it when they have time (whereas chatrooms feel like forced participation right now kind of thing)
Am I really weird or what???
You are not weird at ALL @byn and I can completely relate to what you are saying 110% I am quite a social introvert myself in real life, so, online engagement I find a lot less stressful, but even with respecting your ways, there is simply no logical or mathematical way that ALL 100+ people online feel precisely the same way... just not possible. And to take it one step further.... even if they didnt actually answer, but simply reacted to the "hi" with some kind of emoticon which many of our members do too, that would also have been grand. but what is the use, you have a community where people literally ignore someone new who walks into the room and basically continue their conversations, talking right over the individual.... that doesn't wash with me I am afraid.
Imagine that had been you. Imagine you had decided to pluck up the courage to finally engage in some general room where people were having a conversation about something that perhaps caught your eye, and you made your presence known with a "hi" and nobody even acknowledged that you ever entered the room in the first place.... would you go back again?
I know I wouldn't and wont. Not to ANY of them because I am sorry, but if you PRESENT in a place and actively talking and someone new arrives.... you bloody greet them! In whatever way is manageable to you, but you still GREET them!
Jude has told me many times that he feels too shy to say hello and I have told him that he should then just wave. He needn't speak if it makes him uncomfortable. But NOT acknowledging someone on ANY level, just doesn't fly in my books. If you were not actively engaging in the room in the first place, then yeah fine.... understandable... but this was not the case in any of the instances I encountered.
Well holy beans, yeah. I've stopped in places before, but I just immediately feel lost (like I've stepped into a place where everyone else already knows each other, the inside jokes are flying and the conversation is moving so fast, I just back right out. I can't imagine how I'd feel if I tried to say "Hi" in all that activity and was still ignored! How Rude!
I concur! lol :)
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I'll see your "crickets" and raise you one "potluck dish thrown in the trash."
I'm a member of a few discord groups that I only bounce into occasionally, since they're for specific apps related to the Steemit platform.
In one such group, I was curious if a thing was possible, so I searched (instead of being lazy and asking in general chat), and found a whole bunch of people were asking the same question, and the answer was basically - "we'll get to that at some point."
I then went looking for some kind of workaround, and found a website that offered a free solution to the problem, but needed the app developer to submit the info.
I jumped into general, laid out the info I found (including company name & website), and said that while I knew they were swamped with more important things, this might be an eventual, easy, and free solution to that one particular problem.
After an hour or so of not seeing a reply ping from GINA, I went searching... and found someone deleted my post. No warning, no explanation, just - gone.
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ouch! Some mothers children I tell you!!!!! It really is bloody SAD!
And yes, that's one of the many, MANY reasons why our little Steemit Bloggers group RULZ! We have an awesome mam. 😂
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hehehehe!!! >blush!!!<
Dang it! Almost forgot...
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LOL damn straight! haha
I agree @Traci! 😊
Yay! 😊
I'm going to chip in here and take it to another level. In case anyone doubts your post here, I was on a couple of those channels and can attest that you speak the truth.
Now I'm not as seasoned as some Steemians, but I'm not a greenhorn anymore either.
What do you think my reaction was to see someone who holds some clout here on Steem not even get the courtesy of a hello?
If no one is willing to give you that courtesy, what chance does anyone else have of a warm welcome?
I wouldn't even make an appearance.
So take the newcomers that you mention aren't being welcomed, and add pretty much everybody else to that list as well.
If you want to know how to kill a community, I'd say that is step number one.
yip! in a nutshell.... SPOT ON! Sad but true @inalittlewhile
Ok I thought it was just me...thank you for stating what I thought was something obvious!! I too grew up with manners, and live my real life with common courtesy, so I hate going into a discord group, saying hi, and be left hanging!
Thank goodness our mom over at steemitbloggers insists on good manners :)
hahahaha thanks @lynncoyle1 ;)
And no... definitely not just you... haha!
I guess it's a good sign that it's definitely not just me then!
lol yip!
I'm sorry it took you this long to realize that discord sucks. :P I've never really liked it for chat. I don't know what it is, but something about the style makes it so that often people don't even reply to me.
Of course, I'm not ragging on your community, just the platform. You could easily switch your community to another piece of software if you wanted to, or needed to.
Better late than never hey @geekpowered LOL - ag, I don't have any issues with the platform itself and wouldn't worry to "move" (its so much unnecessary PT) - but the people within the various servers could all do with a little etiquette grooming lol ;)
O I agree - not only manners, but compassion - would the world not just be a better place if everybody stop thinking just about themselves and treat others with respect and dignity - one of my favourite speeches in class BE KIND
So true @anneke... I wish that life lesson was emphasised a LOT more all round!
Hehehehe. Barnie again.
They used to say, a person with a bad name, is already half hanged. I would say the same for people without manners. I have experienced that several times. I would see people actively involved and chatting in the group and say hello, it sounds like my message just went under without anyone acknowledging it. I just leave. I really can't give a reason for that, except for those i know were not online and might probably be too lazy to scroll up, when they come back online. I agree, it is totally discouraging. Everyone is busy tending their fields. They are comfortable with people they have known and wouldn't want to leave their comfort zone. Still bad.
Glad you have taught Jude right manners, and rubbed it off on your discord channel. When i told you i was proud of you being a mother and as a person yesterday, you can see i wasn't off point. shines my teeth
Yeah it is a sad reality of society today - I am just really glad to be able to sit here and say that the people who step into our server are not disregarded like that :)
Lol @ shines teeth haha
I like and admire you a lot. You are also funny and take jokes. God bless your heart.
It's great to see how engaged steemitbloggers are with the community, if I'm not around on s.b. I'm probably not on my computer.
hehehe... we are addictive like that hey @coyoteom... lol :D
Can I say "hi" here? as I wasn't on discord when you typed "hi everyone" earlier on. hehe.
Wish I could online all the time though. But I know you understand.
Yay, we passed the test with flying colours!
Cheers with wine. xoxo
hahahaha CLASSIC @iamjadeline! and yes, understood xxx
good post interesting your contribution
Wow..Amazing post...
I admire your expressivityHello @jaynie, am here....interesting post my friend, you have always hit the nail at the head.
@jaynie wow.... That can be disheartening sometimes. But since it was a test, am sure you got your result. And I prioritise positive energy. I hope I can join your discord server or is it based of assessment?