Every child is different and unique. Each child has its own needs, demands, habits, and routine. Some children like to wake up early, others might like to sleep till late; some might like milk and curd, others might not. Comparing your child to other children is the last thing that should be on your mind as a parent.
Honestly, the comparison is inevitable.
While I say we should never compare our children to others, it is next to impossible. When we see other kids of the same age group around us, we tend to ask their parents about what they eat, how they sleep, their activities, and other development parameters.
For e.g. in my case, I have a nephew who is 5 months younger than my baby. So we keep comparing both of them and expect my nephew to react to things similar to how my baby did at that age. But that's now how it works. He and Raag are completely different. While Raag giggling and laughing loudly at 4.5 months, he has just started doing that when he is 5.5 months old. Raag, at 10 months, is 9 kgs whereas my nephew at 5.5 months weighs 8 kgs. My nephew has a lot of body hair while Raag has minimal.
Both the babies have one bloodline common (of my parents) but yet they are so different. So imagine when there are no common bloodlines and we expect the child to behave similarly.
As parents, we must understand that our child is unique, special, and skilled in his own way. They will learn things at their own pace, react basis their judgement and intellect and do things how they like (not how we like). When we compare our children to others, we are actually putting a lot of pressure on them to do things beyond their capability. This pressure keeps building on the child, some are able to perform while others are not. And when they don't perform, there is a feeling of disappointment.
As parents, it's our first job to understand our children and respect who they are. It's our child afterall and will do things that match our behaviour and personality. We must allow them enough time to find out their personality and discover who they are, what they want to do in life. Putting pressure on them hides their real self and makes them into a person we want to see, not who they actually are.
So dear parents, respect and understand your child's behaviour, attitude and encourage them in what they want to do. That's how you will be a good parent.
Nice articles about a child, you are really right, comparing children is very bad as some has unique abilities than others, children's care love, no matter how they behave, reacts or respond we should love them.
Great one about children, i really agree with you no two child born of same parents are alike, even twins respond differently to their environment even though they might possess some similarities.
Some parents try hard for their child to measure up with another which is actually harmful to them. Praise them when they do excellently well and encourage them when they fail.
Many children have lost their self esteem as a result if comparism, which is so common in this part of the world where i come from forgetting that we are all God's Original Copy.
Definitely mate and i want to say no matter the level of correction too while trying to put a child in Order or into check at times, comparison to me is what I sincerely disagree with cause it has a way of weighing a child spirit
Yes children are so different to each other and we should never compare them to each other.
That is what some parents don't know, even though who are twin they are different type and they don't do something.
One can be fast and one can slow, one can be hard working the other one can be lazy.
Because I have twin as a friend, we Both went to the same school and I know there behavior, the tiaye she is very hard working but her kehinde she lazy.
The parents should know that this cause problem for the children, especially when you are disturbing the child it will make him or her to have depression.
As a parent we need to be encouraged our children always and correct them rightly.
Some kids are actually slow but if the parents motivate them in the right direction and help them be confident around children of the same age group, such children get to track very easily and normally. It's more about the parents and less about the child actually.
What a very good contribution here on this topic and I want to say that parents or guidances too should have enough time and energy to place more attention to thier child or Ward,cause it will really help to get the best out of such child once he /she is well understand too and I want to say that thier are things that our children at times find so hard to share,but once will know them well enough we will get to know those things without even asking them at all
Yes, parents, these days are not able to give enough time to their children. A child's behaviour, to a great extent, is governed by our actions and how we teach them. If we don't spend enough time with them, we definitely don't have the right to compare them to anyone else.
Honestly all children are very different and very unique, comparison of children's of nowadays is inevitable as you said because there are some children when feeding them he or she will like playing and there are some that playing always be a distraction for them you should just study the one you are lucky with, try to love them and no compared him or her with anyone
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Yes, that's true. Every child will behave differently and you won't get anything out of comparison. You can't induce a specifc behaviour or habits in your child. They are who they are, and we must accept and learn to deal with them that way