The fact is that in society today the truth is all too often skewed, bent out of shape, warped and hidden; the media is partly responsible but individual humans do it to themselves and those who they are supposed to love as well, willingly.
Today I thought I'd write a few words I believe to be true and which many people might find hard to accept through ignorance, arrogance or delusion. Society is geared a particular way and values have shifted in directions I feel are unproductive and dangerous but humanity rushes headlong down the slippery slope and towards...I'm not sure what, but nothing good.
- Your material possessions like an expensive phone, vehicle, property, large bank balance or any other item or thing you relate to as your "wealth" are meaningless and valueless if you don't like who you are, don't treat people kindly and with due respect, value relationships more than money and love yourself enough to work towards being as good a person as possible. A person's wealth isn't financial, it goes much deeper than that.
... ... - Change is constant and should be embraced. Bad becomes good and good bad, beauty fades and ugliness transforms; everything changes and life goes on regardless, but change is an opportunity to be jumped upon. A person's major life-goal should not revolve around beautiful, pretty and shiny things, the goal should be to seek a happy and meaningful life, rich and deep relationships and acceptance of oneself; that's a more stable platform to launch from.
... ... - Social media influencers fabricate their lives; they're not real as presented and they make poor role models. The true picture is less perfect, far from perfect, and probably quite broken hence their need for the attention and validation they seek through social media and any scraps of income they earn with their lies and fabrication. It's fictional, their lives and personas, and comparing or modelling one's life after them is never going to lead to happiness. It's time to stop.
... ... - You will not always win, you shouldn't want to, and winning is a concept that most don't understand. So much energy is put into winning but people often choose the wrong things to win at. Win a social media argument with a stranger or win at maintaining one's honour and integrity? Win a job promotion or win at spending valuable time with family nurturing the family unit and relationships? Win at the ability to furnish one's life with more and more material things or win at creating a happy, fulfilled and meaningful life? It's a choice that most get wrong. A winning attitude is essential, but the process of seeking to win should be done with honesty and integrity and not at someone else's expense.
... ... - The fear of missing out is one of the most misunderstood concepts on the planet. Human beings should fear missing out on strengthening their relationships and bonds with loved ones, fear not spending time delving within themselves to seek greater understanding, knowledge and wisdom and should certainly fear not spending time surrounded by nature and being "still" within themselves. The truth is, people fear not being relevant or valid in other people's perception when all along it comes from inside the individual. People fear missing out on the latest consumer goods when they should fear missing out on the opportunity to engage with a dying planet and their own lives
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Wealth is definitely not based on financial grounds, the wealthiest people in this world are the ones who love their lives.
While change is necessary for moving forwards, I find it hard to accept change in my life often times. I guess I'm just a type of person that likes to get comfortable in my little bubble and all the changes that come in my life are trying to pop that small little safety bubble that I have. This is something I'm trying to improve on, to accept changes more easily in my life.
I have never looked at influencers as role models, while there are definitely some great people out there, I don't find that becoming internet famous automatically gives good characteristic traits.
Life is not a race . . . well it is, but against time, not against other humans.
So I will apply the winner mentality to everything that makes a person happy.
As much as I hate to say it, feeling "missed out" is a huge negative to my mentality.
It's just not possible to experience everything and when you get too deep into thinking how much you're going to miss out on life, you'll find an infinite black hole of endless stuff that you can not experience in your lifetime.
I've learned to ignore feeling the "missing out" feelings and focusing purely on what is actually happening in my life.
Sorry for my rambling, but I had fun writing this, I pretty much wrote my description and thoughts about all the points you had in the post.
Oh and I wanted to edit this in as well.
I write like I'm a perfect person who perfectly follows ones ideals, but far from it 😅 What I write is what I would want to be and do, obviously in real life it's much harder to control yourself and follow your mental rules.
Don't apologise for your "ramblings" I loved it and am glad you took the time to write it; I really like how open and transparent you've been.
I think this is a super interesting topic and responses like yours (the one you had in your head and then wrote down) is what I hope to gain by writing pieces like this. If we're thinking about it then we can see areas for improvement, understand what we're doing well and grow from it.
I liked this a lot. We can't always win, but having the desire to be our best, to seek to improve continuously, will help us lead better lives. Nice one!
Thanks for taking the time, I loved your points and am glad you've shared them here which I think brings greater depth and perspective to what I wrote.
Hi, @galenkp, I agree on everything (sounds strange, doesn't it?), especially on the capacity for self-deception of the human being. This is the basis of Festinger's thinking.
I can assure you that there is surely not a person in the world who does not think he or she agrees with the first point. However, I stumble upon people every day who seek to “win” by using “shortcuts” at the expense of other people. Or who only seek instrumental relationships.
The use of the word fear is very appropriate. The end of life should be happiness, yet every day I see people ruin their own happiness and try to ruin the happiness of others by seeking such banal goals as gaining “relevance”, in front of people they don't even know.
Very good publication.
People ruin their lives in so many ways these days, there's too many options for people to do so...of course, they can choose differently, just that so many people do not. Sad for them really, and for society in general.
I hope no one ruins your Friday. Happy weekend in advance.
So do I ..I may have to
kill themgive them a stern talking to. 😬🤣 Anyway, Happy Friday!
Wise words old man! The more you own the less you live. For me, to be successful in life is to have it make some difference that you have lived, and lived honourably.
Haha, yeah like dinosaur old!
Lived honorably Yep, that's legit.
In the last 12-24 months, I've really applied extra special value to my real-world relationships. I have so many truly close friends (well, I can count them on both my hands) and I think I've got enough now to have a full cohort of pole-bearers.
That's what life is about isn't it? Finding people who will weep over your corpse when you're gone?
Building meaningful relationships (including with oneself) is a life-critical skill in my opinion. It's not about the volume of them, just the depth of them. A handful, ten digits worth, is a good number but yeah, six pallbearer's is a decent number I'd say. (Ten may be required for really heavy dead people. Lol.)
Seriously though, applying that additional effort will pay dividends in the future and I bet that you're already receiving the benefits from your efforts. Nice work.
Feeling loved and cherished is definitely a strange sensation for a bloke. Its pretty nice.
Yep, it's nice indeed...and I think it brings us closer to a "meaningful life" which we should all be seeking. (I also think it brings a lot of meaning to other people's life as well.)
I agree... and agree... and agree.... and agree.... and agree.
Known better as I agree with all of those points.
A person doesn't need all of that to be happy and they will be happier if they realize that fact.
It's not to let science is it? Society (humans) have shifted their mindset so far from centre and I think it's causing complications that don't need to be there, and a lot of unhappiness - that people delude themselves (usually by buying things they don't need) isn't there...but it is.
These points make sense to me, people like you and me, but many others don't get it.
It's true that a large part of society has fallen off of the common sense wagon and I am sure there are a lot of factors. As far as the online influence and life comparing crap, I believe it is more generational, since some folks never knew a time in their life when all that wasn't going on. To them it is the norm and they didn't get the advantage of growing up and getting a little better mental grasp on the bigger picture in life before being exposed to all of that 24/7. Add to that, many parents wanting to be their children's best friend in stead of their parents while they are young and.... well... there is so much that can go wrong. It's ok when your child is grown and out to have a different type of relationship with them, but until then, someone is supposed to be in charge! Anyway, you know how that all is, you could go on and on and never cover it all..... and still nobody would listen.
Yep, I agree with all of this and in one short comment there's so much to unpack.
I wonder if there will be a change, if people will seek better ways and that will cause a U-turn as such. Who knows.
I had lost hope that common sense being the majority would ever come back, but I think for now, I see a small glimmer of hope. Only time will show if that glimmer will grow or turn out to be only a quick blip on the radar.
Here's to hope nothing being blippy.
There's good people out there, men too, so keep holding to that hope and being your true self.
Every victory, when we have an opponent across from us, in any game, implies that that opponent loses something.
Except when we are fighting against ourselves and against the misfortunes and injustices that are inflicted on us every day. Then we defeat the weak in us, banish fear, insecurity and strengthen mental strength and integrity.
Overcome some of your weaknesses and shortcomings, you are a true winner.
Even in losing something can be gained that can be later turned into a win.
Experience 🤔
The only tricky thing is, if we lose a life in defeat, then it's "The End" 😀
I died a few times...I always seem to recover. I'm hard to kill it seems.
Die hard 😀
Yeah, dying isn't so bad, one gets used to it the more it happens. One day I'll not come back from it I guess, but until then I'll keep coming back from dying. I'm not much of a quitter.
My wife was having a conversation with one of her old friends a while ago and they were talking about social media. My wife said you seem pretty happy on Facebook. Her friend said, that's all fake. In the rare occasion I do post on social media, I try to keep it pretty "real", but apparently that isn't the case for most everyone else!
I think people want to believe that other people's social media posts are true and accurate, possibly because their own lives are so shit and they feel living vicariously is a way to mitigate the feelings of that. It is not.
Keeping it "real" as you say is smart...there's no point deluding oneself to the truth.
Yeah, that could be part of the issue. The problem is, they want to believe it so bad that they fail to see all the good in their life. I'd be so happy if traditional social media ceased to exist.
Yep, I'm with you on the cease to exist thing. ✅
I love your post and sent it to my 21 year old. Indeed there are so many truths here. I see it playing out around me daily. I do not like it and hope that people will wake up. Often times it is a process though or it never happens.
I hate the impact influencers have on society. I sometimes cannot believe that people are so gullible and it is not only young people. I listened to my children speak or argue sometimes about social media comments - sometimes it is good/relevant and sometimes not. Often I interject and remind them that those people and our opinions of them or their opinions have no bearing on our lives. Some discussion is healthy but there must be a balance. They understand and realise that it is energy wasted.
You are so right about the fear of missing out. Being validated by others especially strangers is so unimportant and irrelevant. I wish there could be a serious consciousness wave that takes over. That people begin to focus on themselves more and go “inside”. People would become less anxious, more grateful and a lot kinder.
There's a lot wrong with society today and I don't see it changing any time soon which is a bit depressing.
I guess it's going to take people like your 21 year old to make a stand, see the wrongs and work towards making them right. Will it happen fast enough? Well, I don't think so, but I could be wrong.
I agree - it will not happen fast enough but like you said hopefully the generation of my daughter can make a different. However, considering what they are exposed to - a miracle is needed.
How true these reflections are, it is certainly so, people's approach to what really matters is wrong and with such mistakes nothing good comes of it. I think they go more to the superficial than to the essential, to the inner self, relationships, feelings and much more. I don't know if everyone will ever understand this...
Yeah, there's so many dumbasses so caught up in the unimportant that they forget what really matters.
Too many idiots and it will never end, as Einstein said.
Wealth indeed is beyond mere material belongs and money. What is Wealth if you have money without societal respect and love from other people.
The majority of people these days fail to respect the phenomenon of change. Thus, they lead to portraying false lives on social media platforms. I blame not other ourselves as some of use do support their lies. Good morning from my side.
How do you feel this respect is earned?
In my part of the world, respect is reciprocal. For this, if you want to be respected, you will have to respect others as you deemed to be.
I like your post
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This resonates somewhat deeply to me. Society often chases illusions of success, wealth, and validation, losing sight of what truly matters. Character, relationships, and inner peace. The pressure to WIN at all costs and the fear of missing out on superficial things have led many astray. It's a reminder to shift focus to what brings real fulfilment. Integrity, meaningful connections, and self awareness.
Just what I needed to read today ✨
Thanks for commenting.
I must say, your response sounds rather like it was created with AI. If this is not the case then I apologise. If it is created with AI then I'd rather you didn't respond to my posts; when I interact with people I want to interact with people, nor machine generated text.
Aye this wasn't AI, It was an honest opinion that I had to put up.
Ok, well as I said in my last message, if it's written personally no worries.