We all have flaws and fallabilities, none of us is above such human traits, however it's those that refuse to see them in oneself and act in ways to mitigate them who carry themselves down predictable and dark paths towards...Well, nowhere positive or productive.
The way they delude themselves that their behaviours are a justifiable and acceptable course of action in support of their own lives, that it is a wholesome and legitimate way to increase their self-worth is, in my opinion, an illness of the mind. I find no pity for them and don't lament their demise when it eventually happens, they orchestrate themselves, and whilst owner isn't ever their strong-point, they end up having to own the smelly quagmire they call their life.
Meanwhile, the rest of us get on with life, shape and design it, create a better version...and those bottom feeders have to...suck it.
You mentioned how you think it's more prevalent online due to the force field between them and their prey. I disagree with that. I think what we're actually seeing is what's going on inside the heads of all those people on the streets but of course it's mostly internalized because they know they wouldn't be able to pull a fast one with so many witnesses around to intervene. Yet it still happens, and gets recorded from time to time and ends up on Youtube with the headline, Karen Strikes Again. There are now millions of documented cases online showing what they can be like in public. Then you have to think about what's going on behind closed doors when they're with their families pretending they love them, in all the chaos. Then the phone rings, the arguments and chaos stops instantly, the tone of voice changes to happy friendly nice to hear from you! Then its passed on to the next generation.
Granted and yes I agree; it's not behaviour limited to online, it's a constate state of being for these types, although acting it out face to face my come with a price they are unwilling to pay.
Also yes, most assuredly. I often wonder what it must be like for those living closely to such types as I mention in this post; it cannot be a wholesome environment having to live with the human version of a volcano waiting to erupt.
It is passed along as you say, from one to the other through learned/observed behaviour and the cycle begins again. It's quote able to be broken, but it's more often than not, not broken because those perpetrating the behaviours think that what they do it totally acceptable.
This kind of thing I've seen previously and there are plenty videos of this kind of behaviour online as well.
It generally goes with the whole family having to constantly walk on eggshells, play nice, speak quietly and when things aren't going so well there's door slamming accompanied by a lot of huffing footsteps, tantrum throwing and swearing at anyone in the vicinity.
It's DEFINITELY not a healthy environment for anyone in the household and I feel so fucking sorry for kids having to live with that as a "role model" as that is just not someone to look up to at all.
This sort of behaviour tends to perpetuate as it's generally learned behaviour. It's sad really, especially considering that the cycle could rather easily be broken.
It takes work though and these types you speak of would never admit that their behaviour sucks ass so it is then left to the next generation to unravel the shit and to have to undo it. Kind of unfair if you ask me.
It is unfair, but life is generally, or can be. It's up to those who have it to seek change, to own the thoughts and attitudes that bring about actions to affect change. I know it can be done. You did it.
Social media/online presence can also make it easier for those types to present their false 'good side' or, mask. They can't control their meltdowns though but it surprises me, with all that evidence of meltdown, with the true colors shining so damn brightly, they put the mask back on, and people are naïve enough to take them in. Then they get burned. It's inevitable. Happens in relationships too. Why are people giving abusive spouses and partners a second chance? Is gullibility becoming synonymous with empathy? Sometimes it seems so.
Yes for sure, I wonder this also. I'll be honest and say my father was like this; the kindest, most generous and forgiving man I ever knew. He was a great example to me growing up, but I combined in some G-dog to the mix through a life of hard moments and situations in which brutal honesty and extreme ownership were the only way to move forward intact, and I have the ability to this day. It means I have the ability to take action rather firmly, although, and this is my dad's influence, I have the ability to think first. I was terribly victimised from a very young age and I learned many things, including the ability to be brutally efficient and effective in the actions I take.
Don't even get me started on this one man, it's fucken bonkers how and why this occurs. Brutalised by a partner, go back for more. I know a woman (rather sexy as fuck) who was put into ICU on two occasions by her partner. Went back both times. Finally leaves and finds someone exactly the same and it happens again. Beat a dog with a newspaper on the nose enough times and it'll cower in fear and lose its sense of self, I guess.
Yes, in my opinion.
I learned from a young age as well. I became prey and didn't understand it, nothing made sense, internalized everything, thought it was my fault, didn't know how to disengage, everything stuck and hit hard. And that's exactly where those types want you. For what?
Those were just kids, I was just a kid, but I couldn't trust anyone. Who's going to step in when they know if they do, they become a target. I didn't know they were just cowards. I didn't know these assholes were just assholes. Nothing made sense.
"This kid would do great things if he'd just apply himself," was on every report card I took home. But every time I applied myself and did something great, that's when those assholes would come knocking.
Eventually yeah, grow up, learn some shit like, If you want to do something, just fucking do it, who's cares about all this other shit.
Those types act like they're the ones you're supposed to be impressing. The reality is, no. They get nothing.
Good talk.
This is actually the sickest part of the psychology behind this behaviour and it all comes down to power. The only way these people feel empowered is by breaking others into submission. It's actually an act of violence mixed in with cowardice. If they feel threatened (which most often they will because they all seem to suffer from an inferiority complex), they can only rise to the top by pulling others below them instead of actually doing something that shows them to be a good person who's achieved something by hard work.
Yes. In essence, they cheat in order to win, and their prize is just an illusion. In athletics for instance. The reaction when someone breaks some kind of world record or wins the belt. True winner can barely contain themselves. Someone all juiced up appears, empty. Their body and mind naturally provides feelings of failure rather than reward on their 'best' day.
Man, what you say in this comment, it's like I wrote it myself about my own experiences!
The thing is, that all of the shite we went through created strong character, the ability to deal with adversity and the willingness to do what's required to push forward. I never wish those things didn't happen, they helped shape me; I'm glad to have parents who led by example though, gave me a good grounding and gave me the understanding of ownership. From there, how could my life be anything but brilliant?
Thanks for your commenting. I wasn't sure how this post would be received and if it would inspire much, or any commenting. I'm glad it did.
After what happened earlier this year with that traveler, things like this resonate a lot more now. That's something I'm not interested in letting slide though. Had plenty of opportunities to redeem himself but chose to dig his hole deeper. I'd say it was a costly mistake but it wasn't a mistake. Admittedly did it purposefully; still costly though.