How To Be As "Lucky" As I am

in #life8 years ago (edited)


Everyone tells me that I'm a lucky person... I'm lucky for this and that, Well I'm sure sick of hearing about that shit.
People tell me I'm lucky that I'm self employed at the age of 23. That I have such a great talent in my drawing ability. I'm lucky because I understand money and I started investing at the age of 17.

I'm so lucky because unlike MOST people, I don't have to go to a job everyday. Because I can sit home on my butt and "watch 24 hours of tv, sleep in, and eat cupcakes all day long"

I'm so lucky that I can put a pencil to a piece of paper and create a drawing so realistic it almost looks like it's bleeding out of the paper in front of your face.

SHUT UP!

Why are people so satisfied on making such assumptions?
Does it make you feel better about yourself that you can down play someones abilities and hardwork, To something so effortless?
That way you dont' have to take responsibility for your own lack of hard work, and dedication?

What really goes on behind the scenes?

I became serious about drawing at the age of 12. I was bullied brutally. I was sitting in my back row seat of my art class.
I never wanted to be noticed..
I was never any good at drawing. I was just taking the class because I was forced.
I was really upset that day, My teacher had left the room, And some of my classmates had stolen my backpack and dumped it all over the floor.

I was forced to put my stuff back into my bag, I then tied the straps around the desk leg to prevent it from being taken again. People shouted things at me and called me names. I sat at my back row table,

Alone, practically in tears.

I bit the sleeve of my old red hoodie with my teeth to ease the emotional pain.

The assignment: A Self Portrait

My teacher took photos of everyone in the class. Cut our faces in half. And stapled the half to the paper, We then had to draw the other half of our face.

Getting my picture taken while everyone watched was humiliating. People made jokes that my ugly pimple face would bust my teachers camera... Ironically the camera had some issues and she had to take the picture twice. The class roared with laughter.

I was so upset that day, I didn't want anyone to see me cry, They'd make fun of me more.
I focused heavily on my other half of my face and drew quickly. I did my best to shade even though I didn't know how. I've never focused that hard before...

After the class was over, I put my drawing pointing downwards in the " Completed" basket for my teacher to grade...

"My drawing Looked Like Shit" I thought. At least my teacher grades based on effort rather then skill.

Something unexpected happened. I went to class the next day, As I approached the room, I noticed that my teacher had hung the best portraits in the glass outside the classroom. I kept walking, Until I froze...

On the top middle... My portrait sat.

MY FACE WAS IN THE GLASS IN THE HALLWAY

I was horrified. I covered my face with my hair and walked into the classroom. People stared at me,

I wanted to die

I didn't want anyone to see my drawing, That is why I put it face down in the basket. NOW IT"S IN THE GLASS.

Long story short, I realized that day, That art could help ease my emotional pain, It freed me from the horrors I was dealing with. I could let my emotions bleed onto the paper, and I could share those feelings in a different way, Rather then being straight forward with words. I could share my story in a unique way, With less judgement. It became my addiction, My obsession, my passion. At the age of 23 I am good at what I do, Because it's been my addiction for the last 11 years. and It's gotten to the point I can live without the ability to express myself with art.

Self Employment at age 23

Lots of people are self employed these days.
We live in a beautiful time, If you love something enough there are resources out there to help you build a career out of it. We have the tools now to self publish books, Make our own merchandise and sell online like crazy. Which is much lower in cost than owning a physical store.

If there is something you want in this life, You can have it fairly easily. You don't have to be a slave to the "9 to 5" if you don't want to be.
If you want to travel for a living, You can. There are ways.
You can sit at home on your computer all day long if you want.

The internet, Technology and other things have made it possible for us.

All I did was I took advantage of the great free resources in front of me!

While KEEPING MY PART TIME JOB,

I was so dedicated I even drew during my ten minute break at my job, Working on those coloring pages

I made the hard decision to drop out of college, ( I wasn't learning anything anyways)
And I stared working an extra 7-8 hours a day on my "side hustles"

I learned from people like

  • Lisa Urby
  • James Altucher
  • Claudia Azula
  • Harv Eker
  • Steve Scott
  • Steven Dubner (I might of spelled his name wrong)
  • Buck Flogging


A painting I did about my brutal job. LOL It's a self portrait

And I took their advice.
I worked really hard, I worked my phyiscally exhausting part time job, While working on these things I enjoyed. I slowly built my business and diversified my income.
When I was making 5x The amount my part time job was paying me, I finally quit.

It was brutal.But ANYONE can do it!
I always hear excuses from people.

  • I have kids
  • I work full time
  • I don't have time.

ANYONE CAN MAKE EXCUSES!

Here are the excuses I could have used.

  • I have rabbits to care for
  • I don't have time
  • I'm tired
  • I don't know how
  • I don't get it
  • It's too hard,
  • I'm not talented enough
  • No one in my family is doing it.
  • It's easier to go to college and follow the "pack"

What do you do with your day? Everyone says

I don't have time

Well guess what?

NO ONE HAS TIME FOR ANYTHING!

Do you...

  • Have Facebook?
  • Watch TV?
  • Have a social life?
  • Play video games?
  • Have a cell phone?

THEN YOU HAVE TIME TO WORK ON SIDE STUFF!

Did I have to spend money to get the ball rolling?

A little yes, but most expenses aren't required. I've been buying more stuff for my business to allow it to run smoother and bring in money faster, but you can probably get going for under 100.00
You can write a whole book for free, Even Amazon,lulu and barnes and noble will give you a free ISBN number. You just have to invest in the time, in order to produce a master piece.
Some of the things you will probably have to hire for if you don't have the skills is,

  • Cover design
  • Editing
  • Some marketing expeneses.
    Although you can use websites like fiverr for cheap freelance work.

But Fiverr sucks!

The quality isn't the best all the time. But I have found some free lancers who do jaw dropping work for the 5-10.00 you give them. Figure out who is good and who is not good and roll with it!

Some of the extra things I bought OVERTIME were...

  • Wacom cintiq drawing tablet Cost: 800.00
  • Block of 100 ISBN numbers: Cost 575.00
  • Evernote Scan snap scanner Cost: 575.00
  • HP All in one computer: Cost: 500.00
  • Samsung Laser printer Cost: 100.00
  • 10 sketchbooks Cost: 30.00
  • Illustration pens Cost 50.00
  • Video editor program Cost 40.00
  • Vector program Cost 300.00
  • Clip studio paint Cost 50.00
  • Tracing light pad Cost 50.00
  • Camcorder Cost: 200.00


Among other supplies.
I was able to purchase these items making less than 200.00 a week at a part time loading job. I saved the money and a span of 15 months I was able to get these items. Some items I owned before I started this business though. Many of these aren't even necessary. I just did them to help my business.

The point of this is to not brag, But seriously YOU CAN DO IT TOO!

No matter what is going on in your life, You ARE capable. Just get STARTED!

I'm not lucky, I just worked hard. Which sadly seems to be something rare these days!
WORKING HARD DOES PAY OFF.

Sometimes it doesn't pay off immediately, But it does eventually. You just need to get going and dedicate yourself to it.
When one thing doesn't go the way you want it to, Change your tactics until it works!

MAKE IT WORK

A side note! I became reputation 67, I was 66 the other day :) I'm so excited and happy! I've been working really hard on steemit to achieve this!!
Steem on!

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This a great post with an invaluable message.

Excuses can only take someone so far in life. A lot of "could've, should've, would've" are passed around with very less amount of actual work. Excuses make oneself feel better or justified for not putting in the necessary effort.

Thank you! It's so true! People need to either accept failure or get off their butts and get going.

Absolutely! One needs to keep up the grind, and grind hard.

Yeah, baby! This is an amazing post! You're so inspiring and so young! I see really really great things happening in your life because of your hard work and persistence. I am so glad we both found James Altucher!

Thank you so much! I'm so glad we found him too! I can't wait to see wait to see what the future brings the both of us.

Awesome Kaylin, a very inspirational post and it's nice to find out about your background. Your story really touched me, and reminds me of my friends who I used to stick up for in school; I would get into fights all the time protecting them from bullies.

It has given me a real hatred of bullies and I attack them whenever I spot them trying to undermine me or anyone else.

I am glad that out of the darkness came the light of your art, those kids are just insignificant ghosts now, and you are a successful Steemit artist!

Yay Kaylin! :-D

Cg

Totally agree with you. People always think that if you are working as a self employed or doing creative works, it is really easy. You just need to be talented/have a good idea/ have money to start and that's it.

Btw I noticed you are using wacom cintiq. My brother is an illustrator and he just got a Wacom Cintiq 27QHD touch. He keeps telling me how cool it is, and it worth every penny. It is a new dimension after the wacom pad. So I just wanted to recomend you this as your next investment. :)

Exactly!! You need a little of everything.

Heheh yes I have the Wacom Cintiq 13 HD so it's the smaller one :) Maybe once I can afford that 27 inch I will get it! But for now the smaller size works grea.t

I don't know why but I thought you have intuos pro tablet without a display. :)
Wacom Cintiq 13 HD is great, you can see what you draw right at the tablet.

Hehee Yes! I used to have one of those tablets that required all that coordination, It was rough. My digital drawings looked awful. I don't recommend anyone using those. It's too weird.

I love my Cintiq 13, The screen is still pretty big, And I have limited space in my room, so it works. But when I have a larger place, I kind of want to go all out with a fancy stand and such.

I really appreciate your dedication here, and sharing your work in various genres.
Its amamzing you persued it all starting at 12. Thats great. So many kids cant get their eyes of their hand held games let alone do things they dont have to do.
I agree with that comment of YOUR LUCKY-
I feel its more of an excuse for thoe whom dont try anything, and are just jelous. Every one can try, but they use that line, instead of trying. Believeing in luck is a cop out. Yiu not falling ionto that trap, ahows. Congratulations.
Its a wonderful post, that shows not to give up. To use the resources around you. You'll insore many here, young and old.
I really like that lione you wrote- "No matter what is going on in your life, You ARE capable. Just get STARTED!" That really sums up you I bet. It really shows us you!
And your art is a joy to see. Keep moving forward.
I was always told by my first teacher- Do what you dowell, and they will come.
Whether teachers, money, help, and audience...keep doing, and it will come.
Be well- and create onwards!

Heheh I played a lot of those handheld games when I was 12, But drawing was something I loved more than anything.

I love your comment it's so true! I feel like people try to make me feel bad for them, So I'll give them a free ride.

Thank you so much!

You go girl! i love this, its very inspirational and helps remove that age old saying of starving artist, if you work hard, have talent and are smart, you can accomplish so much! This needed to be said and Im so glad you did :)

Thank you! I'm thankful for the resources that artists have! Now we don't have to "starve"

I agree! being an artist is tough sometimes but so fulfilling, hope we get a chance to collar on some artwork sometime, that would be awesome :)

you're so great ... cheer @kaylinart

Thank you so much!!

It's not bragging when you talk about what you bought. You also said you weren't making very much.... It's shows how much you wanted it! I have heard that at different times also... "Your so lucky" and it's always after a lot of effort has finally started paying off. Good for you and yell at them some more!

Exactly!
Except those pesky ISBN numbers. It feels good fully owning my books, But I gotta admit. That expensive purchase made me sick to my stomach, But now I'm happy with the purchase lol.

Great post. Many only see the success of a person and make their own assumptions. Many of the great success stories are riddled with destruction and obstacles that prevent progress. There maybe a few that have it handed to them but i think the majority have to climb mountains and bleed to the bone before they reach the summit. Nothing comes easy it is head down ass up and grind with a fierce passion that will prevail. You are very talented keep rollin Kay:)

It's so true! Success is rarely "handed" to anyone!
Thank you hehe :)

Congrats @kaylinart. That's a really good message. It may take time but working hard does pay off.

People can be so cruel in school (and some adults never mature). I'm glad you found an outlet to express yourself and your creativity.

One of the things I love about steemit is how users are valued by the content they submit and comments they make. Yes beauty is still a driving force and celebrity status as well, but those who the world doesn't consider beautiful or famous have the ability to share their passions here.

(I actually do think you are very pretty, so that was not directed at you. I on the other hand may not fall into that same category).

You have an entrepreneur's spirit. I am also trying to make steemit my career and learn as much as I can and contribute value in return for monetary rewards that I can use not just to sustain me financially, but to also bless others in need.

I'm so lucky because unlike MOST people, I don't have to go to a job everyday. Because I can sit home on my butt and "watch 24 hours of tv, sleep in, and eat cupcakes all day long"

This made me laugh. It's sarcastic (I hope haha) but the result of you working your ass off and not letting people discourage you.

This quote I feel completely encompasses you and your work ethic.

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Thanks @kaylinart for putting this into words. People generally don´t realise it usually takes a lot of work to "get lucky"!

EXACTLY. That is why I feel like the word lucky is so abused.

Don't let nobody get you down! I really like your drawings and content in general. Keep up the great work and feed the community with your art. Best wishes from Germany. :)

Thank you so much I appreciate that

Wow... look at that first drawing. It's amazing, yet you don't see that you were lucky to be born with that talent? And to find it when you needed it most? Very few people could draw that well, especially untrained...

Still don't believe me? Let's look at my story:

I was miserable in high school too, and bullied as well. I had planned to take a year off from school, which undoubtedly would have turned into forever. Instead I went only because a girl I liked was going, and I figured if she was around college guys I'd never have any chance with her. I picked my major semi-randomly, I liked video games so I picked computer science. No further reasoning than that...

Guess what? It turned out I had a talent for it. I'd never programmed before, my high school had a total of 4 computers and they only opened the lab for a couple physics demonstrations. Even keyboarding was taught by typewriter. But as soon as I started college Computer Science... literally for the first time in my life I was good at something.

Look, I'm not saying luck is everything. You had a talent, and you worked hard to get better at it. And you worked hard to improve your life and become self-made. But you also had talents and opportunities that lent themselves to that. It's both, not one or the other. If that teacher hadn't done that assignment, hadn't put your picture on the wall... who knows, you might never have realized your calling. If I hadn't liked a girl who was going off to college, I'd probably be running games on a carnival like my parents did... instead of making six figures leading an offshore dev team that does all the real work.

It's not just hard work. It's not just luck. It's both.

Great post!

you right!
Laziness, greed and jealousy make people envy and looking for shortcut to happiness and success.

Exactly! I honestly see nothing wrong with being a little greedy and jealous, As long as you use it as motivation to get what you want, Without the expense to others of course!

Cool that I found you . 23 ! Wow !!!That's my daughters age . You are really a very special young talented lady I just followed to read more

That is a fantastic post. Worthy of a screen play. Bravo

Thank you so much!! That is so sweet of you!

You are lucky, you are lucky to know about this site. However I am lucky too, and so is everyone else here at this stage. :)

Hehehe agreed we are all lucky

Beautiful beautiful work! Keep it up be successful

Thank you so much!!!

Cheers for your heartfelt post. I relate much to what you have said. I had a very rough time growing up and it wasn't until I reached the age of 25 that I realised I have a medical condition.

Since that day I have never looked back and my life has literally taken off and I have left every person who looked down on me behind.

Nothing of value comes easily to the average person. At the very least, if it comes easy, it will have no value to you.

Thanks again.

Each person has their own idea of ​​happiness and sorrow. Everyone, establishes a framework when he is happy, depending on its level of life, and when it is not happy. If you do not have time, you should learn discipline. Time management. Something that makes you prioritize time. For example, I had engaged in bodybuilding, it forced me to eat at certain hours of time, a certain amount. It taught me discipline and timing. Now I have no problem counting your time and dispose of it. And I do not understand people who say that they do not have enough time.

Your responsibility is impressive, especially at your "young" age! Not only are you producing enough resources to provide for your needs, but mentally and emotionally owning up to the fact that YOU are going to be the one to make things happen, and YOU decide what's worthy of your time! Thank you for sharing, @kaylinart!

Hopefully your hard work and dedication continues to be appreciated here.

Awesome for you to share part of your story.

Agreed!!! I will keep sharing

For what it's worth I think you were beautiful when you were 12. I'm sorry the other kids were bullies. You got the last laugh though. Your art is amazing! :)

Awww thank you! I'm glad the bullying is over! But it helped me get better hehehe it's true I got the last laugh.

Hi @kaylinart i love your post, you deserve all the best by your hard work, almost everyone confuses success with luck.

It's so true!! Hehe. They need to stop doing that

Your example inspires me. Good luck to you!

I'm so glad! That was the goal

I hear you! Everyone used to tell me I was lucky at golf... well you know what, the more I practiced the "luckier" I got ;)

It's true we work hard for what we have

You are damn lucky, But you work so hard for it!

Yes when you work hard long enough and pursue the right things I feel like it makes all the difference

So glad you shared this, @kaylinart. No short cuts to success. No one really knows what goes on behind the scenes - but if you are doing well, it's not a fluke. It's the result of dedication and determination. Go you!

Thank you for your inspiration and honesty. Do you know what really got me? You described how you felt when the photo was being taken way back when, and then whan I saw the photo, I can actually see the tears in your right eye
Very moving, very honest.
2 things I know, and you hit on them both.

  1. We are all equal when it comes to hours in a day. No-one has an advantage Doesn't matter if you are Elon Musk, you, me, whoever... 24 hours is the daily allowance. Your position or money or whatever other BS excuses people can make up doesn't get you any more.
  2. Moaning, whining and whinging is a zero return investment. No-one wants to hear it. Keep doing it long enough, you won't want to hear it yourself
    Yeah, adversity is a great motivator. People can forget that there would be no rainbows if there were no rain. Peace :)

Wow you o lucky being lucky . Very much lucky . Lucky lucky .
Very nice post btw . Kudos :)

@kaylinart Well then, I guess you were lucky to have such a horrible experience in school ! ( I hope that made you smile !) I really love what you are saying because first and foremost it is the truth !

What you have said in a few minutes is exactly what was said in an entire book "Outliers". The conclusion of the book is what you stated (there are NO Outliers). It was explained that successful people were the ones that employed the "10,000 hour rule" (Do anything for 10,000 hours and you will be a professional at what you do)

People are successful because they are dedicated, consistent and persistent . Yes there are people that are very "lucky" to get a chance to be "Rich and Famous" but most that got in the spotlight don't remain there because they are not dedicated, consistent & persistent.

I really liked what you said about being dedicated to what you are doing instead of watching tv, playing games or whatever and truly making sacrifices to achieve your goals.

If I were a real life whale and could afford it I would "gift" you say $10k to allow you to concentrate on your goals. Because YOU DESERVE IT !!! Some might say "Well you got that money because you're lucky", which of course is total BS, lol because you have PAID your dues !!! Congratulations on your success !
Read More, Reason More ... JTS

Thank you for explaining to the community how you make your own luck!

people say "you are lucky" because they have no idea what they are talking about. a long time ago, I did not have to work and people envied me and hated me because of it - because they "thought" it was easier to live that way. In fact, it was not easier. It's a symptom of the idea that "the grass is greener on the other side of the fence" and the source of the idea is believing that you don't have something other people have and not accepting yourself and your life - envy. No big deal. It's just something a person who lives differently has to accept - people are going to say wierd stuff if my life does not fit in with something they can imagine.

You go Girl!!! Your art is amazing. You are such an inspiration at your tender age. Wishing you all the best in your future endeavours.

Wow! Awesome skills you have @kaylinart, your story was very well written and your drawings will keep me coming back for more. You inspired me to dig out a book I wrote years ago, maybe this time I will have the brass like you, and publish. That picture you put at the bottom looks like Dayton WY. Wish you well!

wow, you're very talented!

Ignore them, they're just jealous of what you have become. There are people like that, people who get irritated whenever they see someone they know who succeeded and exceeded themselves.

We just have to understand them because the usual case is that they have something at home that made them that way.

Great post! I am afraid more or less all of us had bulling at school but think.... if it wasn't happening to you now maybe you didn't know your skill! Nothing happens without a reason! Good luck for your future!

I was bullied at school I even failed it. Now, only this year Im realizing, at 29 yrs old, how good I am in 3d modeling, not that im great at it, but within 2 weeks I made a lot of progresses and I'm keeping doing them.
I do have facebook but I don't use it anymore, social life, uhm no, a cellphone(only for emergencies) and tv, just when I really want to see my favourite tv show only that. I wish I was brave enough to do what I really wanted to do but I didn't because in my past I Feared to fail, now I don't fear to fail anymore. So we will see what will happen.

Once you are LESS scared of failure, You will start doing amazing things! That is the first step! Fight for it I"m sure you will do well.

James Altucher and Claudia-- literally saved my life. I'm so glad to know others are inspired by him! In fact, I love the entire list of people you've learned from. :)

It's amazing how many people expect the world without putting in the work. Really exciting to see you make so much progress and absolutely kill it here! :)

It is amazing!!Thank you for your support! I agree Claudia and James are such amazing people.

You've written a lot of good articles but this one is right up there at the top. Well done!

Thank you so much :) I spent a lot of extra time on this one :)

My daughter (12) may be following you on this path; she is into manga and does amazing work. We encourage her as much as we can (art camps, et cetera), but her self-esteem needs bolstering; I am learning that 12 is a difficult age for a girl. Keep up the great work!

It's definitely true that developing a talent and finding a market for it requires much hard work. Thank you for sharing your story!

You really have an awesome drawing ability and the correct attitude.
"Lucky" they say...
That's a way to justify their own mediocrity and inertia.
I liked the way you ended up motivating the readers to get something done.
All the best and keep up the good "luck"

Your creations are beautiful !!!! I love art..

If I could upvote you with 1 month's worth of my miniscule vote power, I would do it on this post!

(after I voted, I observed your post reward rise by a humongous $6)

Perhaps you've seen the Michael Jordan video.

We live in a beautiful time, If you love something enough there are resources out there to help you build a career out of it. We have the tools now to self publish books, Make our own merchandise and sell online like crazy. Which is much lower in cost than owning a physical store.

I'm pleased to you see you confirm my theory of the coming knowledge (creation) age which I first started earnestly writing about in 2013.

Wacom cintiq drawing tablet Cost: 800.00

Btw, I am one of the members of the original small team of programmers of Fractal Design Painter, one of the first programs to use Wacom pressure tablet for simulating natural media painting. It is known today as Corel Painter (not Corel Paint).

Amazing story and you are great, but those people who laugh at you, may be it’s a little absurd and trivial, but such people help us to find our own ways. As for me I work as a freelance artist not for so long but I`m happy about this opportunity :)
this is my self-portrait for you, me, processing my picture to send to the customer

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