Greetings fellow Hivers ๐
It's been a week now that I found out about Hive through my partner @ethereumkiller. We both meet @acidyo via a contest of the game Gods Unchained and reached out. A big thank you to @acidyo who kindly took the time to guide me in this adventure and helped me with basic questions ๐
In this post, I will try my best to guide you, dear reader, through the main points I've discovered about myself so far. In the last 2 years, of my 27 year old life, a lot as happend. And I grew quite a lot. But one thing that was always difficult to me is talk about or describe myself. So the very first post I'm doing comes with a personal confrontation (note to self - more about confrontation issues later).
Dear Reader, are you ready to board on this discovery journey with me?
Who am I?๐
Now to the hard part
My name is Margarida and people usually see me as always similing and with uplifting energy. The picture you see above was taken during a difficult and dark period of my life this year. It as a black and white filter and is without the smile that characterizes me.
I've learned that I have a real need of alone time. And with the pandemic I lost that space. Which got me really down and with the feeling I was losing myself (note to self - maybe I was finding me ๐ค). So this photo represents to me a reminder of allowing myself the space to honor that need.
You see, dear reader, I'm a very emotional person. Not like I'm always crying or laughing or showing emotion, I just feel each one intensely. Combining the fact that I have always been very observant of my surroundings with my emotional side, it was always easy to me to identify what other people's feelings or needs are (which is strongly related to my career choice, but more on that later).
With this being said, I'm forced to accept the fact I'm a people's pleaser. And when I lost that space for alone time, I lost my space to recharge, the space to just be me without expectation or a self-instilled responsibility of making sure everyone is ok nor the worry I might hurt someone's feelings. So lately I've been focused to stay more true to myself and I'm facing now the fact that this comes with more confrontation with others.
(note to self - remember this when you feel the need to say yes to something you don't wanna do)
Passions of my life ๐
Uff! I made it. Back in my confort zone ๐ช
This picture is what I look like when I'm genuinly smiling. It was taken during a day at work when we were trying to take a presentation picture for the clinics instagram page. Not very aesthetic if you ask me, always with my curly hair all over the place. But this is actually what I look like and I use the ๐ emoji very much because of that or when I feel shy. I also blush easily so this little photo session quickly turned into a jooking in front of the camera because I don't know what to do.
I love my job ๐! What I do for a living feels like part of my purpose in this life and world. I'm a physiotherapist and currently work with women who experience motherhood. I support women in their Pregnancy and Post childbirth, guiding on the best way to support the body, recover function and maintain the well-being and quality of life. My work brought me a lot of enlightement about myself, my relashionship with my parents and so many other things...
Even in my dark days, when I start to work I fully engage with the person I'm guiding. Everything else kinda disappears and I can go to that place of uplifting energy and big smile I always like. Don't get me wrong. I also have days were I'm tired or angry because someone canceled an appointment or other down emotions. But since I'm mainly dealing with a profound emotional and physical changes of the body and mind of a person, it's very important to me that the pacient leaves my office with a feeling of well-being and hope. So I always try my best to achieve that goal.
Hereยดs a picture to prove my sillyness at work
This lead me to another important part of my journey in this life. Defending Women's Rights. I put on my little bio - activist in defense of women's rights - but I was very unsure because honestly I ask myself "what are you really doing to fight for this" and the immediat anwser I think is -nothing-!
It feels like there are so many things we need to change, so many we still do wrong as a society and humanity that every little step seems insignificant...๐ But when I really think about it, my work allows me to share information with women, empowering them to make the choices THEY want on their motherhood journey, fighting patriarchal prejudices that widely exist in this context.
You see, dear reader, this year I've been to my first ever manifestation and it was against Obstetric Violence, a type of gender violence women suffer during obstetric care (during birth or in any time of their pregancy or post-partum period). I heard and read many reports of childbirth, some amazing and inspirational while others (too many) dark and violent. I've seen some of the physical consequences that comes with that type of violence. I've helped some of those women to regain trust and love on their bodies (or at least I hope I did). And since I've adquired some knwoledge about birth and physiology of the pregnant body this little step towards fighting for something I believe and continuously learning really resonated with my feeling of life purpose.
So in this regard I still feel I'm finding my way to make a real impact and help implement significant structural changes in the way we view childbirth and the way we treat the person who is giving birth. Still not enterely sure how and when I'm going to be able to do this, but on my time, I'm sure I'll get there ๐ช (note to self - remember this when feeling you're not doing enough)
Damn this presentation got really intense!๐ต Let's light it up for a moment... Dear reader, are you ready for some cuteness?
These are my two little cats ๐ป This picture was taken on March of 2021 and I loved the way the sun comes lurking into this two cuties.
The white one is a 3 year old cat and her name is Jinx. Joined our family when she was 3 months old. She's a shy cat, very sweet but very scared. She runs for her life everytime there's a loud noise or a sudden movement. Maybe she had a hard time before coming to my house, I'm not really sure, but she is a very happy cat who loves to sleep between my legs all night and taking long sun baths.
The black one is a male, his name is Loki and he's about to turn 1 year in January. The sweetest cat I've ever met! His also a little prankster who loves to chew on anything he can find, push objects to the ground (note to self - breathe!) and beg to play with him at 2 AM. There's a big story behind how Loki come into my life and I believe he entered my life in just the right moment. He's already teached me a lot about myself and I feel we have a real connection.
You see, dear reader, Loki was my first contact into motherhood. He was 15 days old (me and @ethereumkiller estimated) when we rescued him from the street and couldn't find the mother. I didn't know a thing about newborn cats but as I've come to learn - there is a LOT!
Bottle feeding every 3 hours, cleaning the pus from his eyes (he had an infection), making sure he was warm (cats aren't able to regulate their own body temperature), making belly rubs (they need it to be able to poop). And yes, you need to stimulate the anus as well and basically give a bath everytime they poop because they make a poop mess (sorry about the graphics ๐ ). That reminds me I'm a person who REALLY needs her sleep. 7 hours/night at least to be functional, 10 hours to be at my best. So as you can imagine this was a time of little sleep and a lot of caring and searching for information.
Not the best quality picture but here's proof of my dark circles at the time
P.S: I also love to wear large and fluffy outfits and socks on top of my pajamas. If I'm home I need to wear some comfy pajamas, even when we have visits ๐คฃ
My current intentions for Hive โ๏ธ
I see so much potencial on Hive. Not only for myself regarding personal growth, allowing myself to create and express without fears, and even some money, but the opportunity to contribute with my vision to communities regarding women's rights and my professional experience.
My intentions for now are:
- Empowering women's on Hive who experience motherhood with information and tools to help on their journey
- Discover my creative self by not limiting myself on the subjects I talk about or different main interests
- Discover other people perspectives about women's rights and the challenges they face in their country, what they feel we need in order to change.
Thank you, dear reader, for bearing with me this far ๐.
I really hope you enjoyed my attempt of creating my story as much as I did writing it! I really think this was the first time letting my own confusing emotional self just express. Without the fear of what others might think so I'm a little nervous about what kind of reaction I'll get ๐ but also very proud of taking little steps to be truer to myself regardless of the challenges, negative feedback or clashes that may arise along the way.
Because that's when I grow the most ๐
Wow what a fantastic introduction post! Time and effort clearly went into it and I'm delighted to see the great support it is getting.
I love the smile in that second photo and how it's balanced with the honesty in the "hard part". Life is a series of ups and downs, we have to enjoy and embrace the ups and accept and try to understand the downs and we'll do just fine.
When you figure this bit out, please tell me!! I too am a people pleaser ๐๐ In fairness though, there are lots of worse things we could be!
Welcome to Hive anyway, enjoy and don't be a stranger ๐
Thank you for your awesome feedback and warm welcome! ๐ I went to sleep last night after posting it and this morning when I entered PeakD almost had a heart attack ๐คฃ
Totally! Altought for me got to the point here I was feeling crushed and overwhelmed so it made me realise what I need in order to take that personality trate in a balanced way ๐
See you around and have a great day! ๐
It's a fantastic bonus boost to get you going on hive and up to a reputation of 57 already ๐๐
Keep the faith for your upcoming posts as it will be very difficult to maintain this level, but what I would say is engage as much as you can with tge different communities and keep posting like you just dis.
See you around and best of luck.
I'm ashamed to admit I don't even know how reputation works ๐๐ I guess it goes up when we receive comments or upvotes ๐
Totally agree! Already prepared for that as fellow hivers already warned me as well ๐ช
I set the bar too high ๐ for now I'm just gonna cool off a bit and interact with more people!
See you around! Have a great day ๐
So in a nutshell, your reputation starts at 25 and goes up when people upvote your posts or comments and goes down if they downvote you.
The higher it goes, the slower it goes up, so for me, I'm on 68 now and to get to 68.1, I'll need to get something like $200 worth of upvotes. For whales who have 80+ reputation, a 0.1 uplift must take a huge amount of upvotes to happen.
I admire that you did'nt rush straight into post 2 after seeing the success of post 1. Well done on that. Engagement and building a following is much more important right now๐
Thank you for your insight! That's a lot to climb from now on but I really want to take my time absorving all of this. Now that I have fully refreshed RC I'm eager to start seeing other people's post and get to know more about the amazing people that took the time to send me some love ๐ค
upvoted so you can get more reputation lol
Awesome introduction to the Hive community. I am looking forward to seeing more of your cats. My wife and I rescued two little kittens while we were on a walk about two years ago and the bottle feeding can get pretty overwhelming. Luckily they were already about 4 weeks old so they werenโt quite as small as Loki. Here is a photo of our little baby when I was bottle feeding him.
Owwwn ๐ What's the name of that cutie? Sometimes I look at Loki and miss the time I was bottle feeding and the little noises he made. He literally crawled up my legs with the excitement! It took a while longer for him to accept solid food also. Only at 8 weeks we managed to leave the botlle feeding ๐
In the beggining, sadly when we went pick him up found out he wasn't fed for a whole day and only later learned how bad a prognosis that is. He was really in bad shape and didn't have enough strengh to eat. When we talked to the veterinary we really weren't expecting for him to survive!
But luckily he's a fighter ๐ป He survived and grew (A LOT) into a majestic - panther like - black cat.
Here's a photo of him posing like a pro ๐
I am glad you found him and he is doing so awesome. My cats name is Rusty. We have five cats total right now, but he is our special little guy.
It's a pleasure to meet you both! Love the name Rusty, it really goes well with that beautiful orange fur. Amazing pic by the way ๐
Awww๐ฅฐ๐ฅฐ
I stumbled across your post somehow and am glad I did! This was such a good read - I felt that I was inside your mind following your thoughts. I want to learn to write like you!
Being a people pleaser is a struggle for me too. I learned recently that we can still please others while still holding boundaries to please ourselves too. I notice with myself that when I'm in my people-pleasing mode I tend to self-sabotage by sacrificing what I want or need in order to make someone else happy even if there is no need for me to sacrifice.
I'm on a journey of finding more middle ground where I can satisfy both myself and others. There is really no need for compromise if there is an alternative, don't you think?
Hello @omoitsanis ! So nice to meet you and I'm glad you stumbled across my post hehehe ๐ค It's been so surprising to me to find out that quite a few people like the way I write ๐คฃ While I'm writing I always feel a bit confusing but in the end it seems that everythings falls to place and voilรก ๐
You're absolutely right! Sometimes saying no to others is saying yes to yourself. And boudaries and limits needs to be estabilished for sure. I believe for "people pleasers" can be hard to say no to other, specially without the need to justify when it's not required, but the more you practice going throught that the easier it gets!
So nice of you to stop by and thank you for reaching out!
Hugs!๐
Haha you must have a hidden talent for writing that you didn't realise you have! ๐
I find that saying no is easy in general but saying no to people I want to please, who tends to be people I love, can be so hard! ๐ It feels like I am not making them happy when I should be. But I think I just need to practice more so both parties are more used to me saying no.
Also, thanks for responding to me! This is the beginning of more interactions in the future ๐๐ค
I defenitely going to explore more this flow of writing! I'm quite liking it and having so much fun ๐ I'm so glad you enjoy it!
I get you... I've been there and still am I think... But the "should be" of your sentence shows also the implicity of making other happy being an obligation. I relate to it very much and I've reflected a lot because of it. I think it's regarding to our inner child that growing up maybe you only felt loved/accepted when you behaved in an adult expected way.
If we think of this how many time we say to children "If you do this, I'll be sad/other feeling". It starts here when, unconsciously, we make the children's responsability in how the adult feels. It's not their resposability! At least is where my reflection has lead me to.
I believe it takes practice like you say also, and the forgiveness and realizing we are not responsible for others peoples feelings ๐
I really hope so! See you around! ๐
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I definitely havenโt seen someone receive this much love for their intro post in a long time. This was a very intriguing and commendable post. You allowed us to get such a nice feel of who you are right off the bat.
I love the work you do. When I was in my childbearing years (okay I still am but just not having any moreโฆwe have five kiddosโฆwould have six here with us but had a miscarriage with one of my twins) I shared my journey here with the ladies and tried to encourage them to do things as naturally as possible (no chemicals or interventions but with essential oils etc). I had each of my five babies vaginally with no interventions or chemicals whatsoever. My goal was to bring each baby into this world fully functional and alert and not drugged up. It was hard but possible. I have my midwives to thank for that. I did have a doula with my firstborn and she also was so amazing and such a lifesaver. I took the tools that I learned from her and used those for my next four.
When you were speaking of being a people pleaser it reminded me of the life I left behind. I spent many of my years trying to please so many people and hid myself behind this mask. I will never be that person again. Itโs so freeing to be who you want to be and to speak up and say the things you really want to say. Good for you for being true to yourself, donโt ever change.
Your cats are adorable. Jinx is somewhat like me. I think because I am always in deep thought I get startled very easily. I too jump at every noise and sudden movements most times.
Iโm so glad you messaged me and left me this post linkโฆit was very enjoyable and congratulations on such a well received introduction. Keep up the great writing, Iโm sure many are looking forward to seeing more of you, including myself ~ โค๏ธ
Hello @crosheille! First of all thank you for taking the time to read my post and to leave such a toughtful comment ^^
I'm so glad you had a great experience with your pregnancies and childbirth ๐ I believe every woman should have the possibility to make informed choices about what they want for her childbirth and to make them feel safe and comfortable in one of the most amazing events on her life!
I also believe in science and I want to clarify that I don't advocate for a no intervention/all natural chilbirth for everyone, as there can be situations where intervention is needed in order save lifes.
But don't get me wrong, I'm not saying one is better than the other! Natural and free intervention childbirth is also possible and should be the first approach in every low risk pregnancy. Sadly, at least in my contry, that is not the first choice. There is a lot of unnecessary medical interventions that leads to more medical intervention as a result.
That is why I say I wish for every woman to have all the information to help them decide in what risks they wanna take, and what interventions they are comfortable saying no or yes. The support of midwifes and doula are fundamental during the whole process and can lead to better results in terms of mother satisfaction with her childbirth ๐
I'm so happy you stoped by ๐ Don't be a stranger! I'll whatch out for more of your awesome posts as well ๐
The pleasure was mine. ๐
I agree with you 100% that every woman should be free to make her choice on how she wants her childbirth to go (although many times it may not go the way as planned).
I appreciate you saying that a natural and free intervention birth should be the first approach in every low risk pregnancy. This is what I encourage. I always add if it is possible because I know that every mother may not be capable or able to do this. My sister went through a very difficult time of delivery and although she wanted to have a chemical free and intervention free birth it was not possible. It was needed for the safety of both her and her baby.
So I just wanted to iterate that I do understand every mother does not have that choice but I am a strong advocate in a natural as possible birth for those who can. I used to speak to mothers that wanted this type of birth but didnโt feel they were strong enough to do it and thatโs where I stepped in and shared the tools that were given to me to help strengthen and encourage them and remind them they were created for such a task and can have the birth that they desire or at least shoot for that goal.
Yes, Iโm not sure if I would have made it through like I did without my doula and midwives. They were such a significant part of my successful childbirths.
Thank you, Iโll be sure to visit you again as well. Take care ~
Hello @crosheille ! This was just the kind of interactions and opening sharing I was looking for on Hive. I believe talking to mothers and listening to their stories will enable me to learn so much more about pregnancy and to be able to support them the best.
First of all, I agree with what you said about childbirth being a unpredictable event! And as such, things may not go as well as planned. I'm currently studying and preparing information to elaborate a post with some insights and opening wider discussions and opinions about childbirth ๐
However, I would like to leave here a few inputs I believe they are worthy of discussion and sharing opinions.๐ค
We see eye to eye in this aspect! I would like to share some problems in my country that don't allow this to apply to every woman.
Problem: In Portugal it's very rare for a physician to let the pregnancy get past 41 weeks. The most common intervention is induction proposal aroung 39 week and it's booked usually for the day of the 40/41 week gestation. Many times they do not even ask for the womans permission and there's high coersion on doing so and the "you want your baby to die" card is used more than it should (that would be ZERO).
Even worse is that some Obstetricians do what is called a rupture of the amniotic sac that is a method to manually induce labor. I've heard of some testemonies of women suffering this WITHOUT THEY KNOWING ABOUT IT. In quite a few cases, the doctor says it needs to do the vaginal touch and the woman only realized it after feeling a sharp pain and noticing bleeding in the following days. Doing this without consent and explaining all the pros and cons to the woman or not having a clear medical reason for the intervention is considered Obstetric Violence accordingly to World Health Organization (WHO).
Possible solution: Women must be informed that accordingly to statistics of The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists, 97,5% are born spontaniously until 41 weeks of gestation. And 15% are born during 41 and 42 weeks! So, knowing what's expected acordingly to science and have taken all doubts about risks and beneficies of the proposed induction, then the Woman can make an informed decision about what risk SHE wants to take. It's her body = her decision. And to do that she needs to have acess and clear information provided by those who study years and have impartial and unbiased medical information on all proposed interventions during childbirth.
Finnaly, just wanted to underline that it is the health care worker's responsability to stay up to date on changes of scientific evidence and changing their practices accordingly!
My main stand in this subject is that women have the right to make decisions about their childbirth as it's their bodies that are being interventioned upon. To do that they must be informed on all procedures and interventions, all it's risks and benefits.
In doing so, I've heard and read women's reports of high intervention labour but with clear medical reason, where informed consent was given in every moment. Like you told me about your sister needing help and that it saved both their lives. This way, the Women get the respect and empathy that is imperative for any human being and are able to make the decision they most feel comfortable with!
I think it seems just so easy to do... Maybe I don't know yet all the obstacles health profesional go throught, but it just seems so simple to apply this. Talking, cooperation between doctor-patient, viewing women as individuals and in transformation. Not as incubators and sensless beings that can't think for themselfs.
Thank you for this wonderful sharing experience ๐ See you around!
Thank you for sharing this input and helping me understand what goes on in your country surrounding women and pregnancies.
I am very aware of the procedure when they rupture of the amniotic sac. Before having my first child I studied about many interventions and painful procedures in order to avoid them and say NO to them. I know how painful they can be for the mother. ๐ Itโs really sad that things are done to mothers without them even knowing or realizing how much it will effect their bodies.
I definitely agree that women should be informed to be able to make the best possible decisions for how their labor and birth goes. Even when this doesnโt happen it would help for them to have access to this information to study and research on their own to gain the knowledge and wisdom they need.
I thank you as well for this wonderful sharing. I look forward to talking with you more on other posts ~
Exactly! We have very similiar opinions in this matter ๐ค I look foward to further continue sharing with you and maybe we can bring some other Ladie's opinions and experiences to the discussion as well!
@ladiesofhive and @motherhood I would like to share more info on this subject to both communities! As I'm quite new on Hive platform I might need some help or guidance on how I should bring this information, or even if we can create together some sort of iniciative regarding subjects like pregnancy, labour, women's rights and obstetric violence!
I would love to hear some feedback from you ladies or any kind of pointers in the right path ๐
Thank you all for this sharing opportunity ๐
hi @blackdaisyft, welcome to Hive. What a wonderful intro post. You connect beautifully with your audience ๐ You are so authentic and down to earth. I loved this post, truly I did! Thank you for sharing some really big vulnerable feelings here with us (mostly complete strangers to you) but I hope you got a real sense from the response you received, of the community you have joined. You have some incredible passions and interests and I for one am looking forward to following your journey and reading your posts. Big loves.
Hello @samsmith1971 ๐ Your words mean a lot to me! I honestly think I was able to express myself this way mostly because you are "strangers" to me (not from now on I hope ๐).
I have a tendency to shut myself down around others and here on Hive I saw the opportunity to start differently. And the response as been so warm and loving that I'm still not sure how to react... I think in the "real world" we are too used to distrust people and we hide ourselfs behind what's acceptable.
Here I hope to do different and let my voice speak freely, spreading love and empathy.
Thank you for taking the time to comment and leave such valuable info in previous comments.
Big hug! ๐ค
You are very welcome hun. Hit me up anytime if you need help here. If I don't have the answer (and I don't profess to have many hehe), I can certainly point you to someone who should be able to help as I have come across some amazingly informed people on Hive since I joined.
Amazing! Thank you once again ๐ Since you mentioned it, is there a way here on Hive to contact you via private message or chat? I already saw that there is a conversation channel but I haven't tried it yet ๐ (note to self - research more about how to start a conversation with friends on Hive)
hiya ๐you can either tag me in the comments somewhere and I'll find you when I check my notifications or you can DM me in Discord. My handle is: SA_Sam1971#1299
There is a Bee chat channel but I think it is just for whoever is there at the time so it's open ...I have tried it a few times but always seem to miss people there. Discord is much easier and if you are on discord then you can engage ain all the Hive community chat groups there โฃ๏ธ
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Hello @blackdaisyft! This is @jcrodriguez from the @OCD team. Welcome to hive! Congratulations for making your presentation post to the community.
Beautiful your cats. I have eight cats (5 females and 3 males). I am part of a foundation in my city where we rescue cats and dogs from the street, I have a lot of love for cats!
I also invite you to explore other communities that you might like in this post: OCD Communities Incubation Program. There is a wide variety of topics. Check out all the communities. If you are looking for tips and information as a Hive newbie, click here: newbie guide. They are easy to understand and useful for learning how the platform ecosystem works.
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WOW 8 cats I can only imagine! I have a big admiration for people who devote themselfs rescuing animals and giving them a second chance in life!
I certainly will check those guides! Thank you for the help ๐ I'm already on OCD's Discord and the comunity already helped me a lot with some newbie questions ๐
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Thank you! I look foward to bring more content to the Ladies of Hive comunnity ๐
Welcome to Hive, @blackdaisyft!
Thank you for sharing yourself here - this is a great post, and what a way to start ;)
Annabelle.
Hi Annabelle! Glad to see you here and thank you for your kind words ๐
Thank you, @blackdaisyft! I'm slowly increasing my posts here on Hive, so it's great to meet you.
Annabelle.
Hey! A warm welcome ;) I am a newbie too haha, i am shure we are having a good time here. really cool that you have a feminist attitude (that's what i heard), i also think it's great that there are communities like ladysofhive!:)
Hello @marytraveldiary! A warm welcome to you too ๐ Hope to see more of you on the community of @ladiesofhive :)
Thank yoou for welcoming me in the Community! I like to see this community and be a part of it:)
@consciouscat I did it! ๐ I really hope you like it ๐ After reading your intro post yesterday (and a few more), walked away from the computer and today the words just seemed to flow! Your help was also crucial for me to take this step so I'm deeply gratefull ๐
OMG, Margarida, you smashed it! Amazing job! And you obviously really struck a chord with a lot of people as I've never seen anyone receive three hundred dollars for an intro post. Please don't expect this every time; it's possibly unheard of. But clearly by you sharing vulnerably, with clear photos of you and kitty cat photos (always a win!) and sharing what you're passionate about, this was clearly all fabulously received. Go you ๐
And you're welcome sweetheart. You're very welcome. I get this deep intuitive knowing about you and your work when you share about fighting for and supporting women in this arena - this is your soul/God-given/life's work. And it's so needed in the world. So even if "all" you do is raise awareness that it's an issue for now until you can see what the next action step is, that will be enough.
Now, I imagine you're probably asleep by now, so when you wake up in the morning (and perhaps recover from the shock of how many people upvoted your post ๐) you might like to use the ... at the top right of your post to "Edit" and just re-read your post. There are a handful of small typing errors that I'm guessing you might want the chance to fix before the 7 days ends and you can't change it anymore.
But in case you take criticism to heart (as your posts shows you are a deeply sensitive person like me) then let me remind you, before I disappear for the night that I adore your post and you. Even from the other side of the world having never hugged you. That is all ๐๐ค๐
I almost had a heart attack when I woke up this morning yes ๐คฃ ๐คฃ still not sure how to react to this, I wasn't really excepting this kind of reaction! And I know this won't happen all the time I make a post (thank you for the advanced warning ๐)
Not taken to heart at all! I love constructive feedback and I knew gramatical and typing errors would be a possibility since I'm not used at all to write in English (my native languague is Portuguese).
The sensitive part of me just makes me sometimes get to caught up in what I did wrong and obsess a little bit instead of seeing my strenghs and evolution ๐ (but luckily not the typing errors)
But as you reminded before It's not about making it perfect so I'm here to learn along the way (note to self - I switch a lot the words here/where/were ๐ )
Could you be so kind to point out here I made those typing errors so I can correct them? ๐
Thank you for your time reading my intro post and for you continuous guidance ๐
Morning sweetheart. I'm not surprised you felt like you were having a heart attack. It's a bit shock for sure. Just be gentle with yourself like you would one of your own patients/clients when they have a big surprise. And you don't need to make it mean anything; it is what is and it can just be unexpected/wonderful/strange/awesome ๐๐๐
Glad you can take constructive criticism. Please also expect the same from me; you are a fast learner so if you spot things you can see that I could fix, please feel free to tell me.
As for your typing errors, there are probably 20(?) or so over the whole post, so I would take me ages to point them out for you. My suggestion (since your English is awesome) just slowly re-read your post (starting with the title) and look for mistakes. I think you'll naturally find most of them.
And so many people who have English as a second (or third or forth!) language also write their posts directly into English, complete with mistakes they never see and never fix. For me, as a native English speaker, if I can understand the point they're making and still enjoy what I'm reading it's good enough. And I'm always in awe (of you and others) as I can currently only write in one language!!!!!!
Hugs ๐ค
After reading your comment, I confirmed on your profile that you're an Online Educator! I was getting a feeling you had the talent to be able to encourage other people while demanding a job well done ๐
I say this because the best teachers I had growing up were the most demanding but loving and understanding ones. They always made me want to make them proud and at the end of the paper/exam in question I felt proud of myself! Thank you for reminding me of that ๐
In relation to typing errors I have an apology to ask. Only after reading what I've wrote I realized it was an unreasonable thing to ask ๐ ! But I want to let you know I am fully committed to remembering to re-read my texts slowly ๐ So far I identified 4 errors (only 16 -ish to go! ๐ค)
Please feel free to comment my posts or anything I write if you see any typing or spelling errors! I'm sure with time I will make a lot less and eventually none at all (aiming high ๐ช)
๐ค๐คLove Hugs! I'm also a hugs person๐ค๐ค
(note to self - re-read your comment slowly. And this note!)
Hehe ๐ I shall take this comment as one big compliment ๐
Excellent, excellent. Thank you. And got it! ๐๐๐
And since I just learned how to add GIFs (due to an excellent post by another cheerleading Hivian @samsmith1971), here's a hug!
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hehe ...all trial and error !LOLZ. This has been a very heartwarming exchange to red in the comments... I am going to read the post now! hehe lots of lovely people on Hive...and @blackdaisyft, you just met one of the nicest newer members I have come across lately ๐ค
Just FYI, you can still edit posts after payout.
Ooooh! Good. Thank you for telling me, for telling us! Clearly I need to pay attention to who I'm learning from ๐
The lesson I take here @blackdaisyft (so I can share with you) is that acidyo's reputation number is 81. The person I learned that you could only edit a post for 7 days had only joined Hive not much earlier than me. 81 means acidyo has been on Hive and engaging and learning for a long time (it actually says how long on their profile). For me, that means I pay more attention to what they say than I might someone who is newer and still learning a lot.
I see your point! I saw it somewhere, not sure if was one of your posts, that you should explore and try to engage with people with reputation above 70. Exactly because of what you pointed out.
Yep. I shared that in my "3 months on HIVE" post. Yep, for exactly that reason.
!LUV and appreciate the guidance. Thank you.
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Socks on top of the pyjamas! Yeesss I am not alone hahaha. Welcome to Hive! You have such a cool job and it is great that you love what you do!
Hehehe good to know I'm not alone in this regard ๐ I recently got a thoughtful gift that I just adore ๐ What do you think?
Awwwwww this is so cute๐คฉ๐คฉ๐คฉI love them.Guess what? I also received as a gift some cool socks
Amazing ๐! My family got to see my awesome socks too this Christmas ๐ Spreading out some love through cool looking socks ๐คฃ
That is a fabulous introduction! It is so heartwarming to see people that love their jobs! You get lots of awwww points for the kitties.
I like the way you came by way of Hive! If you have any questions, I encourage you to just ask, but, know you already have a great guide! I loved your post! Did I say that already? I really do!
Welcome to Hive!
Thank you for the affection ^^ My job is really one of my passions in life ๐ and after the long day I had, 3 Pilates group classes, 1 appointment with a 3 month old baby and 2 house calls, it warms my heart to know that you loved my post!
I found myself yesterday without Resourse Credit to answer to everyone ๐ฑ I really did not expect this at all but I'm glad this brought so many people thus the chance to start to make connections and builing a network ๐
P.S: Dear reader, I promise I'll answer to you all! (note to self - research ways to get more Resource Credits)
That's a great start to introduce yourself on the hive fam! Welcome abroad! I'm sure you'll enjoy your stay :)
Thank you @gabrielatravels! It's been a blast so far for sure ๐
Hope everything will remain the same from now on ๐
So glad to see you dropped your first self introduction post and such a strong one as well @blackdaisyft. Hive can be whatever you want, either as a gamer, just lurking around or use it as s platform to channel your causes or passion, totally your call. What ever your plans, hope you'll enjoy your time here.
And as someone has mentioned, it's unlikely you'll get the same level of payout in your future posts, so please don't feel deflated or disappointed when that happens. If you ignore the monetary side of things initially, and focus on building your network and active engagement, everything else will eventually come together!! You'll enjoy being on Hive more if you have fun and find a crowd that clicks with you!!
Hello @livinguktaiwan! I really thank you for the tips about future posts ๐ I'm really mainly focused on building a network and share my experience! My current plans for now are interact with fellow hivers and learn more about Hive.
I'm worried that I set the bar too high so I'm gonna need a little time to integrate all these new feelings ๐. My next post is going to be carefuly considered for sure (note so self - breathe! you got this ๐ช).
Also with the Holidays coming I will spend some time with my family so I won't be here much. Regardless, I think it's a great opportunity to lurk around a bit more and get to know people with similar interests.
Thank you for stopping by and don't be a stranger ๐
welcome!
Thank you! ๐
Nice introductory post @blackdaisyft. Actually also got to a point in time where I needed my own space and own time. I was down at heart but still kept smiling and going. Loved how you found time to discover yourself. And love your work as a women's activist
Thank you for your kind comment ๐ Sometimes smiling to the little things in life is all we can do.
Keep on smiling and shining! ๐
espaรฑol: Hola Margarita, me gusto mucho tu presentaciรณn, quizรกs te preguntes por quรฉ escribรญ en espaรฑol, sencillamente es mi lengua materna, soy de Venezuela, un paraรญso en Amรฉrica del Sur y del mar caribe. Aunque estamos pasando la peor de las crisis, nunca hablo mal de mi paรญs, porque aquรญ se encuentran las mejores playas, con un clima espectacular y el calor de su gente, para recibir a los turistas. Me gustรณ mucho lo que haces, tu trabajo, espero aprender mucho de ti, por eso hoy te seguirรฉ. Espero que tรบ tambiรฉn me sigas.
Hola @lesliekat ! Yo tambiรฉn hablo un poco de espaรฑol pero mi escritura estรก un poco oxidada ๐
Me encantarรญa de conocer a Venezuela! Ya he visto algunas imagenes mui preciosas del mar azul claro ๐ Me gusta mucho el sonido de las ondas del mar! Particularmente por la noche y mirando el amanecer me trae mucha paz interior.
Quien sepa un dรญa nos encontremos por allรญ ๐โ๏ธ
I think the people who always spend time alone are the ones who understand and heal their problems best. That is the basis for understanding and helping others. And they have confusing emotions that are often different from what they show on the outside. You are young but talent in that field is commendable. Once again, wish you always keep your spirit stable to help people
That's an interesting point of view! In order to heal, first we have to understand our own interior wounds. So maybe we can be available to heal others ๐ค
I'll do my best trying to find balance ๐ I just recently found out that writing my own confusing emotions is one way to do so ๐
Thank you for your insight!
Welcome, welcome to Ladies of Hive.
I love your smiles and your being straight forward and uncomplicated!
Ladies of Hive is here for you.
This is where we can exchange ideas and be inspired by the stories of others.
Perhaps we have the knowledge to share or perhaps we need to learn from others.
No matter what it is ... do it on Ladies of Hive.
You are not here just for yourself.
We are here for each other.
Meet other women in the community!
Get others involved!
Support each other!
And let's have fun!
Nice to meet you @silversaver888. You founded such a great community! Thank you for that first of all. I think it actually was the first community I followed when I arrived on Hive ๐ I believe it's a great indicator for future events and cooperation.
I look foward to exchange ideas with other people, specially with other women. It's been great and unexpected so far seeing the response of the whole community as I'm still trying to responde to everyone because of my limited Resource Credits. So I apolagize if my response comes with a delay.
Already have some ideas to try and open discussion and exchange ideas with women about obstetric violence! I'm here to support and listen to women that may have experienced this type of gender violence and I wish to bring enlightment and maybe some ways we could fight against it.
Looking foward to meet you all ๐
Sister, to be honest, your curly hair and innocent smile are multiplying your beauty. It's nice to know that you help the motherland. I hope your beautiful smile will be on your face forever.
Thank you so much for that kind comment and taking the time to read my story ๐ค Smiling is, in my opinion, one of the most beautiful characteristics in a person!
See you around, hopefully with a smile on both our faces ๐
Nice having you sis. I love your story, I just keep smiling while I read through ....nice one .
I'm so glad my story left you with a smile ๐
Nice to have you around here too!
Nice having you around too...looking forward to read more nice stories.
welcome! such a valuable asset to hive! I tried Gods Unchained, a really fun game!
Thank you! I've been playing GU since Trial of the Gods. Actually that's how I found out about Hive, through @acidyo. I stopped a little bit in between but with these cool changes and amazing rewarding events I just can't stop playing ๐
I don't have much experience in this type of card games. The only one I played before, for a brief period, was Heartstone (maybe your familiar with it). So I'm not the best one building strong decks and I confess I'm too lazy in this regard to research for it ๐
Maybe we could arrange a day to test our decks against each other? ๐
Sounds great except I have really only played this game for a couple of hours haha. I will come back to ask for advice after I've had a proper look at it! Thanks again
Upss ๐ But that's no problem at all :) we can learn together or maybe I can help you with some tips some of these days. Most important is to have some fun while playing! See you around
haha cool! in that case then yeah let's do it!
Welcome to hive @blackdaisyft , we are very happy to have you onboard finally and with such a wonderful introduction. I just wonder when anyone would want to downvote this post, but maybe itโs an error.
I'm very happy to be here! It's been really fun and heartwarming exchanges ๐ค
I'm not sure about what makes a person downvote a post in general but maybe I've overlooked some rule or etiquette that I don't know yet ๐คทโโ
P.S: Dear reader, as I am a newbie I may have done something wrong or against the rules unconsciously. I welcome you to enlightenment me about any errors or misconduct you see.
8 love seeing women joining hive make surr you check out @ladiesofhive community
Thank you! :) Yeah for sure! This introduction post was made on @ladiesofhive community <3
Welcome to Hive! You will surely have a great time here! :):) And I must say, this is one of the best introduction posts I have read till date!
Thank you for the warm welcome! Really glad you enjoyed reading my intro post ^^ I'm having a lot of fun so far ๐
good post!
๐ thank you!
Saya senang menemukan anda... salam dari saya @balianassar
Hello @balianassar. I'm sorry I don't understand your language but welcome and thank your for taking the time to comment and reading the post.