A habit of mine I am really loving lately is taking a more passive approach to few situations which don't mean a lot in the long run but do provoke strong negative reactions in the short run. Instead of reacting to it immediately, I simply gathered feedback from my environment, maintained my mental peace and watched it unfold.
Sometimes the best reaction is no reaction. I didn't realize how handy this would become for trivial situations.
I'm a vampire
Does it count if I have fang like teeth and have slight sensitivity to the sun (I do burn easily) and my hands are always cold (not sure why but every time I shake hands with people, they always comment about the temperature difference).
Ah I am glad to see the vampire clan existing here at hive
That sure comes in handy. I thought I was doing that. I saw myself as more calmed and indifferent to lots of issues, but apparently the real me keeps reacting equally impatiently, according to a certain person and her mom.
It's funny how the mind tricks us, or them...
This can be a very tricky situation. Sometimes either we have the wrong idea about our attitudes or other people simply perceive them differently. The only way I can clarify a situation like this is by simply reflecting back on exactly how I reacted and what I did. Then I simply brainstorm if there was a better way to handle things.
I am hoping the certain person and their mom come to a mutual understanding about you and hopefully it can avoid future possible cases of miscommunication.
This is a great habit to form and one many should add into their toolbox of habits!
I had this happen yesterday and did a post on it. If we let things things niggle at us it's our own fault...Best to put it in its place and move on.
Nice answer, thank you.
I think i need to go check out the lost you have made on this habit.
You should, if you have the time and volition.
Agreed - this is something lots of students of the Tao try to master fr decades. All very Zen like and wise. And sooooo helpful in maintaining a level of helpful calm.
Nothing wrong with being white and having issues with the sun, says my pale-ish self. 😆
😂
Put a hat on!
Lol...Yeah, I go white in winter...Well, more a slightly lighter version of the delectable mocha colour I usually am. Come summer though...Chocolatey.
I'm a chameleon. I go green sometimes too.
Here's me sneaking out of the office on Wednesday, my last day there. (at 12pm instead of 5pm)
Come on you guys. Go for it, the sun won't kill you.
Not so much. I am becoming well acquainted with my dermatologist. So far, I have two kinds of skin cancer on my arms. None of which is melanoma, so it's way more nuisance grade stuff.
But I'm REALLY not good with being up in the dark :)
Hah! I walked outside yesterday in some shorts, looked down, and thought I must not have been outside all summer for how pale I was. I miss the sun! I think I might need to call out a day or two next week with a Vitamin D deficiency.
I think you should work outside. Take that computer outside and enjoy the sun.
You're right, I really should. Maybe next week when it's no longer 5,000 degrees.
Oh! I just checked for you. 80 degrees all week. Ignore those incoming clouds.
I worked for an online company that probably should remain nameless. We had a couple of skype video calls a week and the three owners kept one streaming most of the time. I joined one time and the CEO said "I didn't know you had trees like that in Yuma."
Seems like I had forgotten to tell them that I was on a one month vacation :)
Lol...That's me on the left.
No Nine, the other left.
Who is now in between? May be someone who is short should be in that position
Knucklehead see knucklehead! 🤣
😂 Said in true knuckly fashion.
You know how it works! 🤣
I know he's a knucklehead. 🤣
😘
Hammer-shaped knucklehead. That's me.
I like that one. I need to practice it to see if I'm even capable of such a thing! Ha ha. Love it.
It took every fiber in my body to not react to them 🤣🤣. I definitely feel you here.
It means your body is bullet proof
Does that mean I am matrix ready?
This was one of my favorite scenes from the movie where he stops the bullets.
Wow that's great and I hope so since I assumed it to be that you are having a bulletproof.
It's a great skill to have!
You nail your comments Nine 🤣. I can now visualize it.
"Water off a duck's back" as they say!
Of course you are capable :) It just takes practice!
Capability is in the blood of a man who seems capable. So,, he is indeed capable
Definitely, I have faith that she can do it!
Let's hear fr her and see what she has to say
We can let her know we believe in her :)
If that is what you have to say then no problem.
I think you should be capable of doing that. It's a great habit.
You might need a mantra like "meh", or "whatever", or "ok" and let things slip away. 🤣
"Meh" is a mighty powerful mantra!! :)
It is. It was also my attitude during college. And I graduated as Magna Cum Laude from taking most things as a meh 🤣
Gets the drums ready and waits for the kisses to arrive to start playing... 😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘
😳😳😳😳
Oh, my stars...
It was a really cool song! 😘
We are all practicing something in our daily activities, but this one is great.
Passive and cold don't always have to be the same thing?
Anyway passive is on the edge of being cold. The passion sometimes dries up.
It is said somewhere that "the love of most will grow cold" due to the increase in vampirism.
If I understood that, I'm pretty sure I'd agree with it.
They are the good vampires!!!
Maybe my next spooky story should be about vampires!!!
@moon-city and @galenkp can help advise!!!
Woah woah excellent idea for a spooky story. September is here and before you know it, October 31 will make its way and Halloween will be here.
These are like Blade, but not that cool. They fight for humanity.
I like to think they do. But I'm not entirely sure.
Drowns in doubts
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Going fast on the research department. There's plenty to consider, but they are very engaging people and that's the relevant stuff.
Phew yayyy I have been CLEARED.
Don't worry the evil twin isn't too evil 😈
Hahahha you nailed it.
my city doesn't bite, at least not too hard
🤣🤣 Nine yes I will make an exception for you 😉
This new habit is something I have and yes people do bot like it as they claim I ignore too much but this helps with avoiding certain troubles
Hmmmm....avoiding certain troubles?
Yhup
I know right
I don't really get how it can be use to avoid some troubles.
Give em a cold firm handshake, warn them you steal warmth from people not the sun!
Hahahahha Joan that is a nice little warning to add! I was thinking of suing thumbs up or a fist bump but a cold firm handshake gets the message across
Cold hands, warm heart,
grab that hand and squuueeeze!
Attitude can be dealt a killer blow with a firm handshake 🙃
Wipe the smile right off the face 😉
Ha ha ha, I love your sense of humor, @joanstewart!
Many shocked reaction when offering a firm handshake, often tells a quiet story all on it's own....
With so many around it would be deafening...
It is healthy to maintain mental peace and it could allow you to cool down whenever something unforeseen happens. ♥️
You absolutely nailed it! That is exactly the end goal I attempt. 😊
Well said. I really need to add this to my repertoire. Sometimes, I overreact for things that won't matter in a couple of hours
Definitely something I know I have done as well as a lot of people! This week I became even more aware of this habit. Awareness is a good step forward
Wishing you a blessed weekend @bos
Yes you're right. Now that I've become aware the next step is to curb it
Thanks a lot. I wish you the same
lol do you also bite???
𝖍𝖊𝖍𝖊𝖍𝖍𝖊 𝖓𝖔𝖕𝖊 𝕴 𝖉𝖔𝖓'𝖙.
that must be a relief
Definitely!!! Vampires who bite are dangerous!
I only like the non-biters!
I've heard that they are a lot friendlier!!!
Well there is that! 🤣
Ouch!!! People don't survive hunts like that!
Nine infected my city with her claws. She clawed us all and due to a mutation we turned into vampires except the non biting kind (so basically that serves no purpose at all) 😆
Fret not people, I really don't bite 😎
Why would she do that to 😂 Well st least you are immortal!!!
its called spreading the love 🤣
I wouldn't mind a dose of that! Extra centuries isn't a bad thing!
Having a habit that provoke negativity on the short run is the best you have gotten. I love this kind of habit
Thank you so much @cool08
I haven't mastered it but I hope to get better at doing it even more.
It will be great mastering it and making it a habit.
Doing nothing does not solve anything, but it saves effort on pointless things. And some problems seem to get rid of themselves.
Absolutely right here. A lot of the trivial things which have been provoking reactions don't necessarily involve me heavily or require a fix which is why I chose to consider it pointless and simply shift focus on things that do matter more.
Exactly! Some things do follow the whole easy come, easy go scenario.
This is poetic! A true test of using the power of a human brain to keep annoying stuff at bay! Why bother when you can keep your cool.
Totally agree!
Thank you for the kind words @bertrayo! Glad you stopped by and commented. This week has been like a little test for me to see if I can maintain some kind of calmness. I hope your weekend is off to a good start! 😊
Also now I am curious to hear about any habit of yours or a quirk which you feel comfortable sharing
Hey, good words coming from you and it also helps I truly believe in that philosophy. My quirks, habits and else are in a comment somewhere around all these. Have a nice time looking for them. 😋
Hey! Don't sell me out! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
What's there to worry? 🤣
Hahahahhaha Nine has profiled you @bertrayo
Well all of those adjectives are quite pleasant sounding, I shall take this warning 🤣
90% of the crap that makes me crazy goes completely away in 24 hours. That leaves only 10% to tackle with a cool head and a certain resolve.
Yup, that's some true statistical facts being thrown into the mixture. We tend to worry or get annoyed by a lot of unimportant stuff. If we ignore that, we can get a lot solved.
Yep. It mostly takes care of itself, doesn't it?
I like keeping my thoughts on both sides of the knowledge tree. That's where I keep my balance. It's just a think of taste. Calculus and math related stuff are boring, but there's uses for it. What I wouldn't touch with a 6ft stick are pseudo-sciences.
Is there another way to watch stuff unfold?
I mean all this weird things people like to use to explain stuff like astrology, homeopathy and more on that list. Hey, I'm a sucker for using logic in a lot of aspects of my life.
Takes notes
I'm 70 years old. That's all I can do is watch in a detached manner.
I'm a river rat, too. You can keep your salty old oceans, give me a river any day.
Yes! In a similar vein, I like to say that I will only deal with one crisis at a time, as long as it's something that' worthy of being dealt with.
Good advice, but some times the sneaky bastages (crisis') get out of line and you have to swat one back.
Most go away before I can address them. Now, that bleeding child should have cried louder, in my opinion.
Ahahahahahaha.
My brother and I were talking on the phone yesterday (he was doing fetch and carry) as his youngest was tearing out a bathroom for re-do. We'd been at it a way long time when Randy said "I have to go, Cavan is bleeding." I told him to tell his son for me "Rub some dirt on it. Sweat on my time, bleed on your own."
Haha! Only a man can say that! A mother would be sent to jail for child neglect.
Actually, nowadays, they would just take that child. What a world we live in, Tom.
Cavan is 35 with his own kids. His wife might be glad if social services took him for a while (jk. He's grown into a wonderful man)
You artist types make me nervous. The entire Universe can be defined mathematically. I believe that once you have discovered a true life percentage it NEVER changes. Like 20% of the people you meet are dicks. 60% are just people, they can come or go. 20% are the ones you want to stay with.
Another number freak? What do you know?
I sort of keep track of things.
Absolutely correct! A lot of problems will get rid of themselves if we let them; too often, overreacting to them feeds them and gives them a life of their own.
And that tends to be the problem with all those pesky problems. Then, we could end up drowning in nothing.
So, you want to build your own harem? 😵
I'm just going to ignore the fact you didn't say "send yourself over here".
It is. That's why I don't do it either.
Yeah, 200$ bucks getting on my way.
🤣🤣🤣🤣 Cosmic connection.
Tell me about it. Getting to 200$ is a nightmare because of all the other problems laying around.
I hardly dare ask if you like garlic on a pizza...
I envy you this learned trait. I try as hard as I possibly can to do exactly this. In most areas of life I can just about manage it as I am pretty deep thinking and pragmatic about most things and realise that taking a step back and assessing before acting is a fabulous way to move forward...
BUT... When I'm at work, I am a different man, easy to anger, a fuse that is lit easily and quick to speak my mind loudly. I am old enough to know much better but I think it comes from allowing myself to stay in a toxic environment I should have left long ago. I shall try and take a leaf from your book next week and see where it takes me.
I prescribe sunscreen for the skin and a 'thumbs up' instead of a handshake in professional situations... You may start a new trend 😁
Hahahahahah I do love garlic on pizza 😂.
Work is one area where I do find myself being a bit more impatient and I think it is due to the pressure of getting things done. I hate slacking and having my time wasted and that can cut out the easy going person within me. I am using strategies here and there to manage this a bit. I hope your experiment next week works out well for you!
All in with SPF 60 🤣🤣. A thumbs up or even a fist bump would be perfectly alright with me. Here's to hoping it does become a trend
I read something about that reaction, no reaction thing somewhere once about there's an equal and opposite one or something like that.
ooʇ ʇɐɥʇ ǝʞıl ɓuıɥʇǝɯos pɐǝɹ I ʎuunɟ
I didn't know they released that one. I been meaning to get a haircut, what do you think? Kinda makes my neck stiff.
let it grow out and use it as your body blanket. I will be waiting for this transformation
And you're aware of my dance moves, too. Who.are.you?
Just like Neil Young, I almost cut my hair today. I've about got myself convinced that I'm going back to being shaved clean. Think of all the money I'll save on shampoo.
Oh, do it! :) Pictures!!
Nice! I can barely see you have a ponytail in your profile pic, or at least I think it's in a ponytail. How long is right now?
An object in motion tends to stay in motion, an object at rest tends to stay at rest.
I'm living breathing proof of the last half of that.
I just woke up, what were you saying?
Oh yeah, motion!
One of the best things I've learned in my life was that it's ok to step back from any situation or thing. It was sooooo hard to learn but the difference is night and day. Great habit. That's not anywhere near a quirk.
This is something that takes quite some mental patience to get used to. Timing as well as being rational enough in the moment to decide how to tackle the thing have paid off nicely! I am still not perfect at it. There is always a learning curve.
Hehehehe I was responding to the Share one of your good or bad habits and explain question which galenkp asked in the original post. 😊
Agreed, @bigtom13! Definitely a skill to master.
Yes! In the case of people, there are some people that just want to cause a reaction. My attitude toward them, regardless of how they might irritate me, is "don't feed the trolls." Ultimately they'll go away.
There are times it's a process, or a thing, that causes me grief (such as a computer glitching). In these cases I remind myself that I will not let an inanimate object get the better of me.
Ahh computer issues, I have had trouble here and there navigating a software but I realized that it just takes getting used too as well as practice and heaps of patience.
You summed it up very nicely. This is what I remind myself. Trolling has come along a far way now. We shall keep our shields up
Yes I think it has to do more with understanding yourself, that’s not giving any situation power to control your emotions. I see myself not reacting in a situation where normally I would flip, I’m so proud of growth and wish more people will adopt this.
I am very happy that you have reached this point! It is one of those things which I have to continuously remind myself of.
Thank you for stopping by Perry 🥰
Hahahahah mental notes only
oh no, you found it out 🤫🧛♂️
ah the duality of geminis