Life is many things, a series of positive and negative thoughts, attitudes, emotions, events and actions, amongst them - It's a given for a human being and not a single one of us will get through our lives without those things happening in some form and they will have various effects upon us that will cause yet others. Life is a cycle of positivity and negativity that just keeps turning until we die.
I try to stay positive mostly, even when negative things are happening around and and to me.
I operate better from that position, my thoughts and attitudes are better which means I'm better-placed to push things towards resolutions...but it's not always the case. I feel negativity just like the rest of humanity and despite the fact I generally deal with it well, it holds me in place at times, slows or stops my forward momentum.
Something I work very hard on doing is limiting the hold negativity, (things, events, people and places, thoughts and attitudes), has on me. I don't embrace it or welcome it, wallow in it or make it the reason I can't, or won't, progress, I shun it. One of the ways I do that is to put things into perspective, the negative thing, understand its potential effect on me and determine if it's something I really need to address and work on or whether it's something I can simply let go, cast aside and forget. What I do depends on many factors and working on the negative thing or casting it aside and walking away isn't easy to do...but nothing worth doing is ever all that easy and dealing with negativity is important for a better life.
If it's negative, don't go as often and don't stay as long...and if you can avoid going altogether, do that.
My business coach told me that many years ago and I brought it on board somewhat as a mantra - It's served me well and I'm very good at avoiding negativity because of it and other elements of the principle, but occasionally it's unavoidable of course.
It takes a lot of energy to be positive and also to be negative I think, and any human who wants to design and create their ideal life, like me for instance, will have to expend that energy in the right places and proportions, or so I believe. Positivity generally and positive things don't just happen by themselves, they're created, and moving away from negative things definitely takes work also: Ownership, understanding, conviction, persistence, creativity and a compelling reason to want to progress amongst them. But the energy we expend is worth it in my humble opinion.
I'm of the opinion that I need to make things happen for myself because no one else will do it for me. That means I protect myself from negativity, hold it at bay, where possible and work hard to shift it towards a more favourable and acceptable state of play in respect of my life; I believe I owe myself that. There's no switch one can flick to turn off negativity and turn on positivity, I wish there was, but there's a way to do it nonetheless...it just takes work and the best place to start is by removing the negativity altogether if possible and, if not, then expending the required effort to work on the thing itself and move it forward.
I was thinking about these things today in respect of a person who is quite negative and how I feel I'm moving further apart from them without wilfully choosing to do so; it's like something within me repels their, seemingly constant, negativity in a bid to protect me and I suppose that's what I've trained myself to do.
It made me think about how others handle and deal with people and events they find negative and how they deal with negative thoughts and attitudes within themselves. I figured I'd open the topic in a post and see if anyone was keen, willing and able to share their own thoughts and opinions, even stories, in the comments section below. Please feel free to do so if you're interested, I'd love to hear your strategies and methods or just your thoughts generally and maybe someone reading it may get an idea or two which will help them positively effect their lives.
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I do my best not to be negative. It can be difficult as you said, but nothing has ever come too easy. The one thing that has helped me a great deal has been writing here on Hive. By exploring my thoughts and sharing some of myself it has helped. The other thing that has helped me is helping others here on Hive from donating rewards to welcoming new people. Doing these things has helped me deal with the negative thoughts I have about my current issues. It fills my head with positive thoughts and turns those thoughts into positive actions and interactions.
Yep, I'm not surprised and think many could say the same thing.
I like your comment, it is personal and yet covers a lot of ground that many could benefit from. The best way to increase one's self-esteem is to increases someone else's, and I think the same could be said about negativity and difficulties...helping others, lifting them up, can do the same in return.
Life needs to be balanced with the positive and negative aspects to it. But, being positive makes you continue working towards your goals. And, the negative aspect which is sometimes, "reality", makes you stronger. But, one should never let the negative value weigh more than the positive value.
And, this is why I agree with this;
I have to give myself that much because no one is coming for me.
I am glad you are moving farther away from such a person. We need to be careful about how we all negative people into our lives it dampens our soul when it is too much to bear. Especially in situations where we need positivity around us.
The negative aspects of life help us to appreciate the positive aspects, or it should I think. Both are going to happen though, either way, so it's best to learn how to deal with it, and mitigate the negative where possible.
That's why I termed the negative aspect as "reality". It helps value the presence of positivity just like you made mentioned.
And, I do agree we should learn to deal with it.
You have no idea how many years I have been studying this subject, I have thousands of reflections on it, it is a very beautiful subject, even more so when it is learned and practiced.
Positivity is not only theory, but a lot of practice. Thoughts are energy and they have a lot of power... people don't even imagine it... that's how the world is... a lot of negativity.
The short of it is this: positive and negative are vibrations, if you are positive you will attract positive. What we were taught that negative poles attract each other is not like that, it still attracts the same. That's why you repel the negative without even doing anything, you are not in that bad vibration.
And I could talk about this topic .... I would not have enough for one post, there would be dozens of posts to talk about this... I am passionate about all of this. And to put it into practice even more... to teach people why and how to do it and the meaning of it all.
But for that you have to be able to believe in what you can't see...
Thank you! I love these topics, I really enjoy talking about what I learn, thank you!
What things do you personally do to maintain the right attitudes, stay on track, rather than fall back into negative thoughts and attitudes? We all do it at times, negativity will touch everyone's life, I wonder how you climb back out of that hole?
Thinking negatively is part of the human race, we all do it and it is unavoidable. But it can be fixed, when we realise it there is a way to fix it so that we don't attract that negative energy.
First is to realise it, to become aware and to get out of the negativity by thinking about something good or positive, to change vibration, like the tuning of a radio.
Sometimes you talk to me about your other Galen.... There is a Galen elsewhere that you can ask to reverse or cancel that negativity.
Good night and to you have a beautiful day!
My Idol Galen. Love the title and the picture of the battery since the battery has a positive and negative charge. Just like how in life us humans can choose to give off positive or negative vibes.
I truly believe if people avoid the negatives they tend to be generally happier whether this be themselves or other people. We have to surround ourselves with people that have positive energy. We only have one life our mood can't be negative all the time. I mean it's ok to have the occasional grieving when we lose somebody special in our life but that's part of the life cycle. We have to accept that and continue with a positive outlook.
It's truly amazing how there are people despite all the struggles they have had in their life, that they are still positive and happy and want to continue living their life to the fullest. I saw a guy with no legs doing pulls up and bench presses on america's got talent. This guy is truly an example of being positive and giving positive vibes. Meanwhile we have negative people that have a better life and better situation it really makes me disgusted sometimes how there are people like this that aren't grateful for what they have but oh well it's their choice.
Here's the video incase you're interested. Truly inspiring~
I used the battery image for exactly that reason. ✅
Constantly dwelling on negatives will hold a person there and those that don't, or so I have found, are those who don't want to do the work to move themselves forwards from it. Where they are feels comfortable as they don't need to strive, to work hard and there's no chance of more failure of they don't try in the first place. Of course, there's always those with legitimate mental health issues, but many people could move away from negatity if only they didn't wear it like a comfortable coat.
And then there are those who have ownership, self-responsibility and who find the courage and put in the hard work like the guy you mention.
I'm not saying it's easy, I'm sure that bloke went through tough times and had to dig deep, but staying in place, embracing the negativity and making it the reason a person doesn't move forward seems wasteful of life to me.
Ya there are people that dwell on the negatives but sometimes it's hard like you mention here with the mental issues especially depression. I think it's a bit hard to recover from depression without outside help. Even myself I had a time when I was depressed and did some stupid stuff like run away from home. Now that I look back it was really dumb but sometimes it's really hard to move on from that negative feeling as well. People sometimes get lost along the way and they really do need help from others to help them get back on track.
Like this guy because he got pushed to be better by the adopted mother. I think things would be totally different if he didn't meet her or get adopted by her. So I believe a part of it is the willingness to not only move on from it but to get help from others to get out of that zone but I could be wrong.
No worries I get what you mean. I agree with you here as well. We have to accept reality sometimes and move on and do what we can to live the best life we can. We can't really control things outside of our own life so we gotta do the best to look at the factors we can control and one such factor is our mood and feeling
Indeed it is, but the person experiencing the depression needs to do most of the work, no one can do that for them. Like you say, "the willingness to not only move on from it but to get help from others."
We should be accepting of it all the time I think, meaning that we should acknowledge and accept that what is happening is happening, that way we can add some input and influence it. Living in denial isn't going to be much of a life.
Exactly, it's in their hands but us as outsiders should also be there whey they reach out. That's usually what we can only do
Yes yes maybe i shouldn't have used the word sometimes oops. What you said is what I actually wanted to lean more towards.
I think I got what you meant but was just commenting to clarify I guess; I know it's sometimes/often difficult to put into words exactly what we're thinking. It's all good.
Exactly you are on point with this. It used to be worse but it's slowly getting better since I've been writing on hive
Positivity and negativity is spread all of the universe- started with God and Lucifer.
Attaining equilibrium in both of these things is impossible because equilibrium is ideal situation that's why there is imbalance between both of them and that's what make life more interesting.
Negativity and positivity both takes energy. The best thing which we can do is the same as you have mentioned that we should invest the energy in right direction.
I also always try to use the path of positivity and try to overcome all the negativity with my positivity. My optimistic approach always gives me spirit to excel.
I wonder though, how do you stay optimistic, what steps do you take and what happens if you cannot achieve it?
Monty Python have the answer to all life's conundrums.
In general, I would say that I'm a pretty positive person, or at least I try to be one! 😁
I find that acknowledging negative feelings is not a bad thing and could be the first step in moving forward. I try to reframe situations by focusing on the lessons/experiences they offer. Surrounding myself with supportive people and engaging in activities that bring joy also play a crucial role in staying positive! ✌️
Trying is much better than not trying because you're actively thinking about it.
There's nothing at all wrong in acknowledging negative things, we need to do that, so we know what to avoid and what changes to make as you say, the first step to moving forward.
Judging by your last couple sentences, you're well on the right track. Good work.
We avoiding it should never be the solution as nothing would be resolve! 💪
Indeed.
Well said...I can switch several times during a day. One second to another and my mood switches. In general I would say I´m more positive even while dealing with some health issues.
It´s actually more exhausting to be negative than positive, even when you feel like shit...at least for me.
Just recently I learned something really cool and since that I´m practicing it. I tend to get pissed really quick while driving...of course its always their fault. I just learned that it is ok to swear for 15 sec..if you continue and don´t stop...YOU ARE THE PROBLEM! I thought about it and its true, every time I don´t stop to be angry I realise that it is due to something going on in my life.
I think it's the inability to see anything but the negative things that inhibit and hold people in place. Finding something positive in a negative situation, no matter how small, causes a shift in thought and attitude and that can lead to more of the same.
I like what you said about the swearing thing too, we need to learn how to let some things go rather than hold onto them which can prevent forward movement and personal growth.
I hope things are well mate, and the effects of all that driving is starting to wear off.
It is, I was like that for quite some time. Everything and everyone was bad...I was the total opposite I was in my teens, only negative thoughts. I was literally looking for the negatives.
Yeah really good advice, especially because its impossible to not get angry while driving :) haha
Yes, all good, just came back from Coles...with the bike :)
Coles huh? Did you have to check-out your own shopping? Here, they have removed all the operators...I refuse to shop there anymore. If everyone did that they would be forced to give the jobs back rather than making the customers work there for no pay and check-out their own shopping.
What? Seriously? Are you in Adelaide cbd or outside? Haven´t seen any coles or woolie without cashier but small shoppings like today I prefer the self check out...unfortunately its way quicker
I'm about 15km from the CBD, so pretty close.
There's Coles stores all over the place with no check-out operators and I refuse to do it myself. IKEA is the same, I was there on the weekend working for IKEA for no pay checking-out my own purchases. But AI and technology is good for jobs right? Lol...when no one has jobs and the crime rate rises maybe someone will take notice.
wow thats crazy. I would expect that in sydney CBD but not outside. Haven´t been to Brisbane yet but in Cairns there were still operators. On the way up there were even supermarkets without self check out. Not long and there will be absolutely no staff in there except security...sad :(
Even more crazy is that I´ve found shops that did not accept money anymore, only card...but smaller shops, can´t remember
Sorry for this, but I tell you something: it is true, it is not easy to get away from negativity sometimes, since it is usually camouflaged with other factors (work, family, something important in your life that requires the presence of that negative being) Or if it is about negative situations, it also involves things that hold us there until we decide to let go, sometimes late.... But what I was getting at, I find myself in the same process and I think we need to know and be aware that the world is too big, there are millions of people, and the nice thing is that we are allowed to choose of what or from who we want to be close to.
Every day I am more and more convinced that it is better to let go of ballast in time, because if we don't do it this way, life gets complicated or screwed up by people who are not really worth the trouble.
I agree, freedom of choice is a very powerful tool and should be the right of all people. It's also wise to apply honesty to oneself and understand which people may be unhealthy (negative) to be around, no matter who they are because not distancing them could mean inhibiting one's own progression and life is too short to do that.
I agree with this completely. Have you found it difficult to let go of the dead weight? (The ballast, as you say it)
Thanks for commenting with your thoughts.
Of course I do, because I always tend to help, or try to, at least. And it turns out that I always get hurt, because no one changes for me, or my influence.
(This happens because those people need professional help, and I am not qualified).
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If we talk about negative situations that I can't let go of, well, also. Because I have not had the strength to decide to let go. Life is a learning process. I hope to become a better person every day, based on my happiness, because if I don't achieve it, how will I give happiness to others?
Ah ok, I figured. I guess, with those people who need the help, they need to do some of the work themselves, others cannot do it for them and if they're not willing to do so trying to help them often doesn't go well. Also, as you point out, sometimes professional help is what's really required.
Spoken like someone who is actively seeking a best-life scenario. Well said.
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I try my best to deal with my negative thoughts, most times find out I let it out but growing up I have tried taking a walk whenever I feel a negative thought, I try to get my mind busy with something else, things like writing, reading or going out to see my environment it has helped☺️
Keeping your mind busy is a good thing, but it's best to confront the negative thing and deal with it as that allows positive forward movement.
Thank you for the advice☺️
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Negativity is a part of our lives. It comes to us in different ways. It depends on us that how we tackle those negative situations or thoughts.
Yes, that's exactly what I said in this post, you've simply paraphrased it. It would be better for you to come up with your own things to say when you reply to a post rather than simply saying what the post says already.
Understood
In everything that I do, I always make sure that I have the spirit of positivity in it and it always go on well...
That's how I think. Even if it is obvious for what I'm planning to do to be very bad or has slim chances to occur, I'm still always positive and I always make sure that I remain positive even though it takes years
It sounds like you have a good handle on the concept.
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We all certainly have different views on life, I'll grant you that, and out methods of dealing with what comes along vary in style and success.
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I'm yet to understand the heavy downvote, though I know you've been downvoting me for more than 9 months now.
The first content, the one with actifit banner was the first post, but while I posted it on actifit, it showed Hive blockchain error, so I assume it didn't post, waited for a while and posted again, said same thing, and I did again, and went to Actifit discord to complain.
Just checking my blog and saw the three has been there and couldn't even delete with Peakd. So, I took time to write original content there.
Even if you want to accuse that I made 3 post (which I can never do intentionally and I have never done), why downvoting the actifit that was the first, 😏
Three posts in the same hour. You're farming.
The end.
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Why will I want to farm a $0.10 post, 🤷
Do you have anything else to say?
Because you post low-effort rubbish and make no attempt to engage with the community. Only seven comments in the last three and a half months and one of those is the one above about a downvote.
End of conversation.